"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Originally posted by MyNameIsTaken
Lol. I've said that to myself a LOT of times...

So you really think my chances aren't all gone? Well then how the hell am I gonna save it? What's my awesome comeback? If I can barely approach a chick, how the hell am I supposed to get a good impression by one?
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You're making this harder than it should be.

All you do is next time you pass by her in the hall or something just say "Hey, how's it going?" in a normal voice (no stuttering, low volume crap). If you happen to be in the same place and aren't just passing her by, just say the same thing and add, "Didn't I meet you with *blank* a few days/weeks/whatever ago?" Then just continue from there. Obviously don't say that if you just met her yesterday. Wait at least around a week for the "Didn't I meet you..." line.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Originally posted by familyguyfan
You're making this harder than it should be.

All you do is next time you pass by her in the hall or something just say "Hey, how's it going?" in a normal voice (no stuttering, low volume crap). If you happen to be in the same place and aren't just passing her by, just say the same thing and add, "Didn't I meet you with *blank* a few days/weeks/whatever ago?" Then just continue from there. Obviously don't say that if you just met her yesterday. Wait at least around a week for the "Didn't I meet you..." line.
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Ah, I see. What if I said something like this lol:

Me: "Hey, what's up, didn't I meet you a few days ago or something?"
Her: "Hey. Yeah you did."
Me: "Ah, well cool. What's your name, anyways?"
Her: "Tara(I'm thinking that might be her name)"
Me: "Ah cool, I have an uncle named Tara!"
Her: "lol."
Me: "Anyways, I gotta go, maybe I'll cya later Tara."
Her: "Bye."

Would that work lol? I do know I'm making this harder than it should be, but I just need something to work with here. :confused:
 
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That'll work just fine, but why don't you try extending the conversation beyond that. Ask her about herself and stuff (her grade, etc. even though you already know what it is). If you can't think of anything then it's fine to end it, but try and make it a little longer.
 
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Alright, well tomorrow's the day. Tomorrow would be about a week after I first talked to the chick. However, would something like:

Me: "Ah, well cool. What's your name, anyways?"
Her: "Tara(I'm thinking that might be her name)"
Me: "Ah cool, I have an uncle named Tara!"

Be a little to bad lol? I'm thinking, that might just make her roll her eyes or something.
 
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Originally posted by MyNameIsTaken
Alright, well tomorrow's the day. Tomorrow would be about a week after I first talked to the chick. However, would something like:

Me: "Ah, well cool. What's your name, anyways?"
Her: "Tara(I'm thinking that might be her name)"
Me: "Ah cool, I have an uncle named Tara!"

Be a little to bad lol? I'm thinking, that might just make her roll her eyes or something.
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Quit thinking so freiking much and just do it.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Ok, so today was a really gay day... Thank God I have some DJ friends who can help me though. They pushed me and pushed me, but my balls still didn't show.

It was lunchtime, we were hangin' at a table. I've been telling my friends all week that today would be the day that I would stop being a ***** and approach. My target and her friend were sitting all alone in a table right behind us. My buds were pushing me and everything, even threatening to go tell her (which would be a nightmare lol) that I like her. So I totally pussed out, and I'm not sure, but I think one of my friends went and asked the chick, "do you like him?", and she responded with, "well I don't even know him", though I'm not entirely sure. Anyways, I'm really getting sick of this bull**** every ****ing day. So tomorrow WILL be the day that I will stop fear from ****ing me in the ass. If I don't report tomorrow that I have approached, then I'd like to be banned from the forum.

Hopefully my friends will motivate me to grab my nugget pouch and approach tomorrow. Also, my problem could be that I'm not listening to enough music to get motivated.

Another thing my friend asked me was, "why don't you get her SN on AIM?", which I didn't do because I just didn't, is it ok to talk to a chick on AIM that you just met?
 
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I swear to god, every time you post saying you didn't do it I'm gonna close your threads. Starting with this one.
 
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