**** no, she's 32 and about a 6/10. I need someone 7-8+ and in her mid 20sDid you pursue this girl for dates and/or a lay?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
**** no, she's 32 and about a 6/10. I need someone 7-8+ and in her mid 20sDid you pursue this girl for dates and/or a lay?
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
*bangs my head against a wall***** no, she's 32 and about a 6/10. I need someone 7-8+ and in her mid 20s
guys what's a good starter message when a chick doesn't give you anything to work with in her profile? I'm trying to message this chick but there is nothing in her profile to get started with*bangs my head against a wall*
Big dave i hate you
Make a clever joke that she can respond to in a conversation starting wayguys what's a good starter message when a chick doesn't give you anything to work with in her profile? I'm trying to message this chick but there is nothing in her profile to get started with
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Dave, what I think you need to work toward is behaving more like a man. You have your professional life and physicality within the masculine, but your thinking and internet demeanor are effeminate. While this may serve you in a business setting in combination with masculine traits such as perseverance, assertiveness, and ambition--within social interactions, the effeminate side can be unsettling to women.
The effeminate traits I refer to are:
1) Your fear of failure/success and ensuing immobilizations;
2) Your verbalizing of the impossible of that which is very possible;
3) Your exaggeration of probabilities stacked against you;
4) Your social helplessness in feats that other men accomplish;
5) Your constant quantification of your looks and looks percentile;
6) Your repeated thoughts and issues with no solvable actions.
These traits alone bring you to the bottom percentile of men, which supersede any compensatory LMS (Looks, Money, Status).
Your story is very helpful as it serves as the superlative example of how Game ("Masculinity") trumps LMS, in certain contexts.