**** no, she's 32 and about a 6/10. I need someone 7-8+ and in her mid 20sDid you pursue this girl for dates and/or a lay?
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
**** no, she's 32 and about a 6/10. I need someone 7-8+ and in her mid 20sDid you pursue this girl for dates and/or a lay?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
*bangs my head against a wall***** no, she's 32 and about a 6/10. I need someone 7-8+ and in her mid 20s
guys what's a good starter message when a chick doesn't give you anything to work with in her profile? I'm trying to message this chick but there is nothing in her profile to get started with*bangs my head against a wall*
Big dave i hate you
Make a clever joke that she can respond to in a conversation starting wayguys what's a good starter message when a chick doesn't give you anything to work with in her profile? I'm trying to message this chick but there is nothing in her profile to get started with
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Dave, what I think you need to work toward is behaving more like a man. You have your professional life and physicality within the masculine, but your thinking and internet demeanor are effeminate. While this may serve you in a business setting in combination with masculine traits such as perseverance, assertiveness, and ambition--within social interactions, the effeminate side can be unsettling to women.
The effeminate traits I refer to are:
1) Your fear of failure/success and ensuing immobilizations;
2) Your verbalizing of the impossible of that which is very possible;
3) Your exaggeration of probabilities stacked against you;
4) Your social helplessness in feats that other men accomplish;
5) Your constant quantification of your looks and looks percentile;
6) Your repeated thoughts and issues with no solvable actions.
These traits alone bring you to the bottom percentile of men, which supersede any compensatory LMS (Looks, Money, Status).
Your story is very helpful as it serves as the superlative example of how Game ("Masculinity") trumps LMS, in certain contexts.