"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I CHALLENGE all of you to take pics and post them
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Aiken_Drum
Master Don Juan
Mmmm, I think you too should go to talk to sogay.com instead of here...
Flyguy3663
Master Don Juan
i remember that aol sn.. ur machoguy.. i know i remember that SN.. anyways IM me on AOL/AIM.. sn is flyguy3663
Alpha male Female Catcher
Don Juan
http://www.hotornot.com/r/?eid=K8NEKMH&key=GTY
I'm 35 now and been body building since I was 19. I've always been into bulking up and have never really had a decent go at cutting. I'm more into strength training, my personal best bench press is 370lb. I'm 5'9" and 250lb. I'm proud of my physique (I look much better with clothes on) but obviously won't be giving anyone any advice on how to cut. (I don't post in this section because I don't think there is a great deal to say about body building unless you're into steroids or getting the last 5% fat of your body).
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Flyguy3663
Master Don Juan
btw - good numbers on the bench
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
DJKondor
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Flyguy3663
Master Don Juan
soshyopathe, wheres the pic?
diesel?
viroid??
don_jaunabee lol??
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
http://www.hotornot.com/r/?id=KQHEBLO&key=AJJ
http://www.hotornot.com/r/?eid=KQHEBLO&key=AJJ
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wheelin&dealin
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www.wannabebigforums.com/attachment.php?s=&postid=325087
http://pics2.hotornot.com/pics/HS/H8/NL/KE/KYOUN8RWUQYF.jpg
oops, didn't see the shirt off part. oh well, it's what I got right now...no digital camera with me.
Robby
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
What would make us fakes?
Even if we were fat bald old men or 15 year old skinny punks...we would still have more knomwledge than you about heatlh & fitness.
most of the bodybuilding gurus are skinny dweebs.
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"Fear is for...getting your confidence." -STEVEN HELLER, PhD
"Not one shred of evidence supports the notion that life is serious!" - FRIEDRICH NIETZSCHE
wheelin&dealin
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If I were to take a guess as to what these guys look like, I would say that they are big strong guys with a high % bodyfat. You know the type of guys I'm talking about, the ones that lift heavy weights but slack off on the cardio. The typical strong but fat football player physique.
Flyguy3663
Master Don Juan
yea i used to but i been watchin what i eat and doing some cardio to. right now ive slimemd down a ton and almost have my 6 pack back.. anyways tho yea a lot of dudes go heavy but slack on diet and cardio. i know i dont want that look lol..
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.