"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I cant keep a girl!!
- Thread starter c-note
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
The DomMega
Don Juan
I don't call girls just to say hello, they know this. However if we do make plans I'll stay in touch just to make sure everything is still on. I'm in and I'm out, but I also help manage their emotions to a small extent. You want to make sure you hold some kind of value with them if you actually want to KEEP them and not just hit it 3 or 4 times and move on.
You also have to be unlike someone they're use to dealing with. They have to see you as unique in some way, shape, or form. If you are in any way a "nice guy" that **** has to stop now, completely. Remember, words are a woman's weakness, if you choose the proper seductive phrasing you'll have a hardtime keeping up with them. You need to make some adjustments here and you should be ok for the most part. And regardless of what women say, the majority NEED drama in their life as well as their own self-doubts about you. Are they not good enough? Why doesn't he call me that much? So on so forth, if you concentrate more on getting into their heads than into their pants, you're going to see a major difference in their behavior towards you.
Bet
HereToImprove
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Bootcamp will change me.
UpNCominDJ
Don Juan
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Rarely tell her how you feel about her...RARELY compliment her!!
The less you do these things..the more she will crave them and crave you.
Dont call her nearly as much as she calls you.
Take control of the situation whenever you can, be strong willed.
suave4sure
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I'll simplify it. Don't call her to often. Meaning don't call to much. Mainly just call when your making plans or when you have to break them.
Let her always be the first to tell you how much into you she is. I.E. "I love you".
Take her on fun and different dates. don't always go to a movie or dinner. Go to an amusement park. Stay home and cook dinner. Rent a movie. Take a weekend vacation.
Girls want a man who's not predictable. They want someone whos not constantly doting on them and doing what they want. They want someone, who if they don't like what (she) wants to do will tell them.
Vary what you do. don't seem to interested(or involved) early on. and keep things light and fresh early on and you should have no problems.
Have you ever thought about it like this: MAybe its you losing interest in them therefore they become disinterested?Originally posted by c-note
I have gotten pretty good at meeting women, setting up dateswith them and even sleeping with them but they always lose interest in me. What can I do to keep a girl interested in me for longer than a few dates?
Think About IT
frivolousz21
Master Don Juan
because I am crazy.
or unique....I am a ****ing goofy wierdo.
and she cant get enuf of it.
neither can the other women ive dated.
you need to just distinguish urself from the rest of the pack.
boring male gets boring female
fun male gets fun female
simple
Nightspark
Senior Don Juan
I think Mr Freeman's onto something here...Originally posted by Freeman
Have you ever thought about it like this: MAybe its you losing interest in them therefore they become disinterested?
Think About IT
the worst thing you could do is lie to yourself ... now ask yourself do you really want an longer relationship with that girl or this one etc?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
S.S.N. 318
Don Juan
real talk cuzz...word up....Originally posted by The DomMega
....if you concentrate more on getting into their heads than into their pants, you're going to see a major difference in their behavior towards you.