"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I cant keep a girl!!
- Thread starter c-note
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
The DomMega
Don Juan
I don't call girls just to say hello, they know this. However if we do make plans I'll stay in touch just to make sure everything is still on. I'm in and I'm out, but I also help manage their emotions to a small extent. You want to make sure you hold some kind of value with them if you actually want to KEEP them and not just hit it 3 or 4 times and move on.
You also have to be unlike someone they're use to dealing with. They have to see you as unique in some way, shape, or form. If you are in any way a "nice guy" that **** has to stop now, completely. Remember, words are a woman's weakness, if you choose the proper seductive phrasing you'll have a hardtime keeping up with them. You need to make some adjustments here and you should be ok for the most part. And regardless of what women say, the majority NEED drama in their life as well as their own self-doubts about you. Are they not good enough? Why doesn't he call me that much? So on so forth, if you concentrate more on getting into their heads than into their pants, you're going to see a major difference in their behavior towards you.
Bet
HereToImprove
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Bootcamp will change me.
UpNCominDJ
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Rarely tell her how you feel about her...RARELY compliment her!!
The less you do these things..the more she will crave them and crave you.
Dont call her nearly as much as she calls you.
Take control of the situation whenever you can, be strong willed.
suave4sure
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I'll simplify it. Don't call her to often. Meaning don't call to much. Mainly just call when your making plans or when you have to break them.
Let her always be the first to tell you how much into you she is. I.E. "I love you".
Take her on fun and different dates. don't always go to a movie or dinner. Go to an amusement park. Stay home and cook dinner. Rent a movie. Take a weekend vacation.
Girls want a man who's not predictable. They want someone whos not constantly doting on them and doing what they want. They want someone, who if they don't like what (she) wants to do will tell them.
Vary what you do. don't seem to interested(or involved) early on. and keep things light and fresh early on and you should have no problems.
Have you ever thought about it like this: MAybe its you losing interest in them therefore they become disinterested?Originally posted by c-note
I have gotten pretty good at meeting women, setting up dateswith them and even sleeping with them but they always lose interest in me. What can I do to keep a girl interested in me for longer than a few dates?
Think About IT
frivolousz21
Master Don Juan
because I am crazy.
or unique....I am a ****ing goofy wierdo.
and she cant get enuf of it.
neither can the other women ive dated.
you need to just distinguish urself from the rest of the pack.
boring male gets boring female
fun male gets fun female
simple
Nightspark
Senior Don Juan
I think Mr Freeman's onto something here...Originally posted by Freeman
Have you ever thought about it like this: MAybe its you losing interest in them therefore they become disinterested?
Think About IT
the worst thing you could do is lie to yourself ... now ask yourself do you really want an longer relationship with that girl or this one etc?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
S.S.N. 318
Don Juan
real talk cuzz...word up....Originally posted by The DomMega
....if you concentrate more on getting into their heads than into their pants, you're going to see a major difference in their behavior towards you.