i usually don't have a problem getting to 3rd base, but after that, if the girl wants to go further, little tom won't get up. I'm only 25 years old. Unless i'm really personal with the girl, i can't get up. And when i do get up, it's really never that hard. Only once in awhile. maybe it's the pressure of performing, maybe i masturbate too much. I need alot of mental stimulus. Only person that was able to get me up easily without that was my ex. is there a way i can change this...don't say viagra either.
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
i can't hoist my main sail.
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
NewMan
Master Don Juan
Search on this topic - not to re hash old posts right off the bat, but there's a lot of these kind of posts recently - so use the search op-tion - come back if you need more help.
Glenfiddich101
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It might be due to performance anxiety on your part.
Get her to engage you in more foreplay. Its her responsibility to pleaure you as well and not just spread her legs.
Get her to engage you in more foreplay. Its her responsibility to pleaure you as well and not just spread her legs.
FratAndDiddy
Senior Don Juan
get the "ex" out of your mind and "little fella" will salute the biggest flag out there.
Austin Allegro
Master Don Juan
I have had these problems myself. Make sure you're fit and healthy, get plenty of sleep and lay off the cigarettes and the booze (though one or two drinks will help relax you).
You just have to relax, lie back and stop worrying, close your eyes if it helps, just concentrate on the good feelings you're getting from kissing, foreplay etc. Don't rush and don't let HER rush you either.
You just have to relax, lie back and stop worrying, close your eyes if it helps, just concentrate on the good feelings you're getting from kissing, foreplay etc. Don't rush and don't let HER rush you either.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Austin Allegro
Master Don Juan
I've also got a pet theory about not being able to get it up - I think a lot of it comes down to expectation.
Eg most of the time you get hard by the EXPECTATION of sex - ie thinking about it when you CAN'T have it. It's like anything else - the smell of coffee can be tantalisingly wonderful but when you finally get a cup you think...well...it's just coffee really.
Same with sex. If you don't have it often, you build up all sorts of frenzied expectations about how brilliant it will be, but this is all in your head. When you've finally got a woman waiting underneath you, the 'conquest' is over and it becomes difficult to 'connect' with the reality of the situation. It can almost be a disappointment.
This is why you need to refocus on the great sensations you are getting - how she looks, smells, feels, tastes, and how she's making you feel.
I also have problems peeing in a public lavatory when other men are standing near me. The more I worry the worse it gets. But if I just relax, forget about the surroundings and concentrate on how good the relief will feel. It's the same with sex I think. When you start worrying about getting it up, it's time to forget about it and just enjoy the sensations you are getting.
Eg most of the time you get hard by the EXPECTATION of sex - ie thinking about it when you CAN'T have it. It's like anything else - the smell of coffee can be tantalisingly wonderful but when you finally get a cup you think...well...it's just coffee really.
Same with sex. If you don't have it often, you build up all sorts of frenzied expectations about how brilliant it will be, but this is all in your head. When you've finally got a woman waiting underneath you, the 'conquest' is over and it becomes difficult to 'connect' with the reality of the situation. It can almost be a disappointment.
This is why you need to refocus on the great sensations you are getting - how she looks, smells, feels, tastes, and how she's making you feel.
I also have problems peeing in a public lavatory when other men are standing near me. The more I worry the worse it gets. But if I just relax, forget about the surroundings and concentrate on how good the relief will feel. It's the same with sex I think. When you start worrying about getting it up, it's time to forget about it and just enjoy the sensations you are getting.