i usually don't have a problem getting to 3rd base, but after that, if the girl wants to go further, little tom won't get up. I'm only 25 years old. Unless i'm really personal with the girl, i can't get up. And when i do get up, it's really never that hard. Only once in awhile. maybe it's the pressure of performing, maybe i masturbate too much. I need alot of mental stimulus. Only person that was able to get me up easily without that was my ex. is there a way i can change this...don't say viagra either.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
i can't hoist my main sail.
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
NewMan
Master Don Juan
Search on this topic - not to re hash old posts right off the bat, but there's a lot of these kind of posts recently - so use the search op-tion - come back if you need more help.
Glenfiddich101
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It might be due to performance anxiety on your part.
Get her to engage you in more foreplay. Its her responsibility to pleaure you as well and not just spread her legs.
Get her to engage you in more foreplay. Its her responsibility to pleaure you as well and not just spread her legs.
FratAndDiddy
Senior Don Juan
get the "ex" out of your mind and "little fella" will salute the biggest flag out there.
Austin Allegro
Master Don Juan
I have had these problems myself. Make sure you're fit and healthy, get plenty of sleep and lay off the cigarettes and the booze (though one or two drinks will help relax you).
You just have to relax, lie back and stop worrying, close your eyes if it helps, just concentrate on the good feelings you're getting from kissing, foreplay etc. Don't rush and don't let HER rush you either.
You just have to relax, lie back and stop worrying, close your eyes if it helps, just concentrate on the good feelings you're getting from kissing, foreplay etc. Don't rush and don't let HER rush you either.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Austin Allegro
Master Don Juan
I've also got a pet theory about not being able to get it up - I think a lot of it comes down to expectation.
Eg most of the time you get hard by the EXPECTATION of sex - ie thinking about it when you CAN'T have it. It's like anything else - the smell of coffee can be tantalisingly wonderful but when you finally get a cup you think...well...it's just coffee really.
Same with sex. If you don't have it often, you build up all sorts of frenzied expectations about how brilliant it will be, but this is all in your head. When you've finally got a woman waiting underneath you, the 'conquest' is over and it becomes difficult to 'connect' with the reality of the situation. It can almost be a disappointment.
This is why you need to refocus on the great sensations you are getting - how she looks, smells, feels, tastes, and how she's making you feel.
I also have problems peeing in a public lavatory when other men are standing near me. The more I worry the worse it gets. But if I just relax, forget about the surroundings and concentrate on how good the relief will feel. It's the same with sex I think. When you start worrying about getting it up, it's time to forget about it and just enjoy the sensations you are getting.
Eg most of the time you get hard by the EXPECTATION of sex - ie thinking about it when you CAN'T have it. It's like anything else - the smell of coffee can be tantalisingly wonderful but when you finally get a cup you think...well...it's just coffee really.
Same with sex. If you don't have it often, you build up all sorts of frenzied expectations about how brilliant it will be, but this is all in your head. When you've finally got a woman waiting underneath you, the 'conquest' is over and it becomes difficult to 'connect' with the reality of the situation. It can almost be a disappointment.
This is why you need to refocus on the great sensations you are getting - how she looks, smells, feels, tastes, and how she's making you feel.
I also have problems peeing in a public lavatory when other men are standing near me. The more I worry the worse it gets. But if I just relax, forget about the surroundings and concentrate on how good the relief will feel. It's the same with sex I think. When you start worrying about getting it up, it's time to forget about it and just enjoy the sensations you are getting.