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Hi gents. This is a strange one for me. So I've been seeing a few girls lately and one of them has become my main plate. Started sleeping with her around early December and for some reason, I just can't *** from sex with her.

She's a very attractive girl, easily an 8 but she's got a totally different body type to what I'm used to or what I normally go for. All of my exes have been curvy (slim, big up top) but this girl is tiny. Very athletic body, better abs than me but for some reason I can't *** when we do anything sexual.

It's getting to the point now where I already know it's not going to happen before we even start anything and it's massively throwing me off. Have any of you ever had this happen to you and what can I do to change it?

I've tried only using her nudes to masturbate to and that's not a problem at all, *** every time but the issue only occurs when we have sex or she gives me a bj etc. She hasn't really said anything but she's definitely noticed that it's only her cumming and me just sitting there after looking deflated. What I don't want to happen is she starts thinking it's her fault and it starts to affect her confidence because she's incredible in bed (does pretty much everything, nothing is out of bounds etc).

I don't know if this is something to do with not being fully "over" my ex still? I was with her for 11 years and have two kids with her and had bad oneitis for her. Any advice would be appreciated.
Yo man , its normal if you still have stuff running over your head.
Plus , you are freaking out of burden of performance.. if she comments something about you not cumming , dont stress it.
It is what it is. If you dont cvm , no biggie, just enjoy le sex
 

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Just try and concentrate on the job at hand OP. I have had the same problem too and i find when my mind wanders to my ex or other stuff it affects the experience. I'm trying to train my brain in concentrating on the moment.
 

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It's because you felt truly superior to hb6 and not to the hb8, whom you possibly felt inferior to, subconsciously

OP this is your problem. Sex is about power. It's part of the reason Men date down the hierarchy while women always date up
Not at all in my case. hb6 had more of a standoffish attitude where hb8 told me I could do whatever I wanted to her. Total submission.

I think if I didn't get sex on the regular, I could've probably busted a nut with either but when you have 2-3 plates going on at the same time. Everything has to be perfect as your d1ck starts being choosey on who to cvm with.

Hell, I joke with one of my plates that I have thermal shutdown circuit. If I bang her too much, too long to where I'm profusely sweating, there's a chance I'll lose my erection or not able to bust.
 

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OP this won't help in the long run but here is a tip that will work in a pinch. Grab a towel next to were you having sex, when you know you can't *** and you want fake it. Start doing her doggy style tell her you going to ***, thrust deep and hold it and do 1-2 kegels and flex that d1ck of yours. Pull out quick at the same time gather enough saliva to spit on her back/ass it should drop down like semen. She will assume you just finished and came on her ass/back. Take the towel and offer to wipe her off real quick before she can turn around be wise to you just faking an orgasm.

Then play Vangelis - Chariots Of Fire and think of me OP for helping you pull this off you magnificent bastard.
 

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OP this won't help in the long run but here is a tip that will work in a pinch. Grab a towel next to were you having sex, when you know you can't *** and you want fake it. Start doing her doggy style tell her you going to ***, thrust deep and hold it and do 1-2 kegels and flex that d1ck of yours. Pull out quick at the same time gather enough saliva to spit on her back/ass it should drop down like semen. She will assume you just finished and came on her ass/back. Take the towel and offer to wipe her off real quick before she can turn around be wise to you just faking an orgasm.

Then play Vangelis - Chariots Of Fire and think of me OP for helping you pull this off you magnificent bastard.
And the "Post of the day" Award goes to....
 

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OP this won't help in the long run but here is a tip that will work in a pinch. Grab a towel next to were you having sex, when you know you can't *** and you want fake it. Start doing her doggy style tell her you going to ***, thrust deep and hold it and do 1-2 kegels and flex that d1ck of yours. Pull out quick at the same time gather enough saliva to spit on her back/ass it should drop down like semen. She will assume you just finished and came on her ass/back. Take the towel and offer to wipe her off real quick before she can turn around be wise to you just faking an orgasm.

Then play Vangelis - Chariots Of Fire and think of me OP for helping you pull this off you magnificent bastard.
Why would you ever feel the need to even do this? If you didn't cvm you didn't cvm. What's the big deal.
 

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Why would you ever feel the need to even do this? If you didn't cvm you didn't cvm. What's the big deal.
It really isn't that big of a deal but some women build this up in their heads that something is wrong with themselves and feel less desirable and that can lead to a slew of problems. Not that big of deal if it is just a plate but if it's a woman with LTR potential then sometimes a quick fix will help.
 

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It really isn't that big of a deal but some women build this up in their heads that something is wrong with themselves and feel less desirable and that can lead to a slew of problems. Not that big of deal if it is just a plate but if it's a woman with LTR potential then sometimes a quick fix will help.
Surely you're kidding.
Spit on her back and wipe it off? Dude... Not plausible.
Is there anyone in the world who wipes her off after? I mean, don't you enjoy leaving her full of your c u m? Am I really the sick fvck here?
 

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Surely you're kidding.
Spit on her back and wipe it off? Dude... Not plausible.
Is there anyone in the world who wipes her off after? I mean, don't you enjoy leaving her full of your c u m? Am I really the sick fvck here?
I admit it going to seem pretty weird that he is wiping her off after but it might already being getting weird for OP since he can't ***. I knew a girl who cheated on her LTR because this happened for 2 months and she felt unattractive and began to doubt herself as a woman which lead to her sleeping with a coworker just once to prove she had sex appeal and something was wrong with her partner. He didn't find out about it until 6 months later after the problem had been resolved and short to say it ruined his LTR.

I hear you about leaving her full of c u m I once had a girl send me a video of herself a couple hours later after we had sex she was on the toilet with my long strands of my seed dripping out of her because there was so much. She was impressed by how much i filled her up. Nothing sick about that :cool:
 

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Hi gents. This is a strange one for me. So I've been seeing a few girls lately and one of them has become my main plate. Started sleeping with her around early December and for some reason, I just can't *** from sex with her.

She's a very attractive girl, easily an 8 but she's got a totally different body type to what I'm used to or what I normally go for. All of my exes have been curvy (slim, big up top) but this girl is tiny. Very athletic body, better abs than me but for some reason I can't *** when we do anything sexual.

It's getting to the point now where I already know it's not going to happen before we even start anything and it's massively throwing me off. Have any of you ever had this happen to you and what can I do to change it?

I've tried only using her nudes to masturbate to and that's not a problem at all, *** every time but the issue only occurs when we have sex or she gives me a bj etc. She hasn't really said anything but she's definitely noticed that it's only her cumming and me just sitting there after looking deflated. What I don't want to happen is she starts thinking it's her fault and it starts to affect her confidence because she's incredible in bed (does pretty much everything, nothing is out of bounds etc).

I don't know if this is something to do with not being fully "over" my ex still? I was with her for 11 years and have two kids with her and had bad oneitis for her. Any advice would be appreciated.
Fake it until you make it…
Women do
 

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Hi gents. This is a strange one for me. So I've been seeing a few girls lately and one of them has become my main plate. Started sleeping with her around early December and for some reason, I just can't *** from sex with her.

She's a very attractive girl, easily an 8 but she's got a totally different body type to what I'm used to or what I normally go for. All of my exes have been curvy (slim, big up top) but this girl is tiny. Very athletic body, better abs than me but for some reason I can't *** when we do anything sexual.

It's getting to the point now where I already know it's not going to happen before we even start anything and it's massively throwing me off. Have any of you ever had this happen to you and what can I do to change it?

I've tried only using her nudes to masturbate to and that's not a problem at all, *** every time but the issue only occurs when we have sex or she gives me a bj etc. She hasn't really said anything but she's definitely noticed that it's only her cumming and me just sitting there after looking deflated. What I don't want to happen is she starts thinking it's her fault and it starts to affect her confidence because she's incredible in bed (does pretty much everything, nothing is out of bounds etc).

I don't know if this is something to do with not being fully "over" my ex still? I was with her for 11 years and have two kids with her and had bad oneitis for her. Any advice would be appreciated.
I would pop a viagra and pound it out. It’s obviously in your head.
 

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Hi gents. This is a strange one for me. So I've been seeing a few girls lately and one of them has become my main plate. Started sleeping with her around early December and for some reason, I just can't *** from sex with her.

She's a very attractive girl, easily an 8 but she's got a totally different body type to what I'm used to or what I normally go for. All of my exes have been curvy (slim, big up top) but this girl is tiny. Very athletic body, better abs than me but for some reason I can't *** when we do anything sexual.

It's getting to the point now where I already know it's not going to happen before we even start anything and it's massively throwing me off. Have any of you ever had this happen to you and what can I do to change it?

I've tried only using her nudes to masturbate to and that's not a problem at all, *** every time but the issue only occurs when we have sex or she gives me a bj etc. She hasn't really said anything but she's definitely noticed that it's only her cumming and me just sitting there after looking deflated. What I don't want to happen is she starts thinking it's her fault and it starts to affect her confidence because she's incredible in bed (does pretty much everything, nothing is out of bounds etc).

I don't know if this is something to do with not being fully "over" my ex still? I was with her for 11 years and have two kids with her and had bad oneitis for her. Any advice would be appreciated.
You're too in your head about it and you're too worried about what she thinks about it. If you're enjoying the sex and having orgasms, who cares if there's cvm?

Some guys practice orgasming without cvmming so they can go for multiple rounds with no downtime. There's a book on it, The Multi-orgasmic Man. Full body orgasms are way better than cvmming once you get the hang of it anyway.

Don't sweat it. And if you really want to cvm just don't jerk off at all. Let her be your only release.

Seriously though don't worry about cvmming, just enjoy being in the moment and having a tight little athletic girl to split open. And if you're not feeling it then like others have mentioned it's just incompatibility, happens all the time.
 

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@Exil

- Do you have any issues getting hard from her, any delays or problems, or is it strictly just cvming?

- Once you get hard, is it a weak b0ner or a really strong solid one?

- Have you adjusted any medications lately? Sometimes that can interfere with sex, or so it has for me anyway.
 

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