"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I cant *** during sex

Don-Kong

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You are definitely not the only one with this problem.

The doctor will give you an OK because medically he will show there is nothing wrong other than it being some sort of inner mental barrier.

I've seen this a million times in therapy with various guys and women. Very common, very treatable. You wont need therapy. Its probably not necessary but people can get very worried about it but if it becomes too much, go speak to a sex therapist.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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wonderer

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Don-Kong said:
You are definitely not the only one with this problem.

The doctor will give you an OK because medically he will show there is nothing wrong other than it being some sort of inner mental barrier.

I've seen this a million times in therapy with various guys and women. Very common, very treatable. You wont need therapy. Its probably not necessary but people can get very worried about it but if it becomes too much, go speak to a sex therapist.
How had it been treated? and how long did it take?
 

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OP, are you on ANY kind of medications at all?
 

donjuanapprentice01

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I had this problem before as well. This is mostly an emotional problem. In my case, i was f****ing this girl bareback. She told me she had fertility problems and couldnt get preggo, so i figured screw the condom. Well, she THEN tells me she is preggo. The dread came over me like a baseball bat. In reality though? She lied about the whole thing trying to trap me.

I couldnt *** no matter what after that, even with a rubber. The dread that i felt was still inside me.
 

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wonderer said:
I have a problem. I cant c*m during sex.

This is something thats happened with 8 different girls (most one night stands and with a condom). Ill get hard and go and go but no end point. I can last 45 mins with no joy. Its killing me, I just feel nothing in my d*ck just feels like nothing. Sometimes I struggle to have an errection too itl just go soft, but most the time its hard.

I have managed to *** inside a girl before but its rare. I usually have to get tossed off by her to oblivion before any joy.

A little background on me: im 25, healthy, used to watch porn and whack off every day, sometimes more than once a day.

Anyone else have this problem and overcome it?

I'm worried and a bit down about it all. Girls think its them. And im worried about the future when I want to have kids.

Stop watching porn, you masturbate too much

go 90 days without watching porn or masturbating and it will return to normal

Too much porn desensitize your penis.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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