"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I can't do it

sandinista

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I dunno whats with me lately.
I'm just tired all the time. I eat sensibly (my diet at the moment is the most balenced & healthy it's ever been) & I'm getting plenty of sleep (around 9-10 hours a night).

I got fired from my job a few weeks ago, so i've got loads of free time to do what i want. At first it was great, & i was really making the most of it.

but now.. It's like, i just can't be bothered to do anything. I take my dog for a walk everyday, & i used to race her around the woods & get a good exercise out of it. Now, i run a little bit, but i give up after a short disatance.

In the day i keep saying "i'll work out tonight", but when it comes to it, i'm either too tired, or it's too humid, or theres something on TV i want to watch, or i'll start stretching or warming up, & i'm not all there & my hearts just not in it, etc.

I'm yawning all the time, it's like i'm only half awake all day. When watching TV my attention goes elsewhere. I can't be bothered to read anymore. I've now gone back to playing my PS2 as thats the only thing i have the energy for.

What the hell is wrong with me?
What can i do to break away from this?

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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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ApocalypseCow2

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Make a schedule. Post it on your wall. When you workout, put a checkmark on your schedule. Sooner or later, there will be an abundance of checkmarks or none. Then it will be up to you to make a decision about how bad you really want to be in shape.
 

jiza101

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I had the same problem man, basically there arnt enough things to do so you get lazy and sit on your arse. And trust me after 1 week you feel bad and know your not doing anything. My suggestion is to go take up a hobbie, like brazilian juijitsu or a sport. Just something that will take up time, since you have so many free hours you delay things, when you have a busy schedual you get more done, since you HAVE to prioritize to achieve anything. So basically go learn something or get involved in a group or sport to add time, and then you will get back into gym.:cheer:
 

silverwex

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get a new job asap. i fell into this rut too and never really have gotten out of it... hope to soon tho :p
 

Double

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if you have the money than not working is the best thing you can have for bodybuilding.

-as much rest as you need/want
-no stress
-you can make a perfect diet if it is bulking or cutting doesnt matter. think about it...can you concentrate on learning while on always full of food, hardly!can you work a hard physical labor job while on a low calorie low carbs diet??hardly!can you plenty of healthy food every 2hours while working?hardly!also you dont have ****faces complaining about your different foods

USE THE OPPORTUNITY TO BUILD UP YOUR BODY WHAT THE **** IS WRONG WITH YOU?!!BUILD A ****ING MONUMENTAL BODY UNTIL YOU FIND A NEW JOB!!!!!!!!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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