"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I can't do anything with this, right?

Mr. Goods

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I have mentioned this in regard to a post or two before, I work with a professional sports team. This past weekend, we hosted an event at our stadium.

Because G*d likes to mindfvck with me, a HB 8.5 from one of the schools was working with our department. Not only that, but it was set up that she would be working alongside me somewhat. Soon after, when I was the only one in our department's office, she stopped by to put her jacket away, then suggested we exchange numbers so we'd be in touch (in regard to what was happening that night). I was fine with that lol, though I'm not really a decision-maker in the department. Later on, she asked for my e-mail so she can send along a packet they needed to be printed - I gave her my e-mail, but also out department's since the latter was easier to work with and I was nowhere near a computer. Over the course of the night, we had good rapport, good conversation, and she insisted I help her deliver some notes a few times though I honestly feel one person can easily do it (I didn't say anything...of course I'd work with the HB :cool: ). It's not as if we were around one another consistently though, it was very on-and-off since everyone was scrambling to different places.

I will mention this briefly because I know someone will say something if I don't: My company is strict enough that any noticeable signs of flirting/kino would result in a trip to HR or, if one of my department heads noticed, being canned. Therefore, I will not take any risks in this area at work, my job is easily more important.

Above, I inferred why I don't think anything will happen. Here's why: The school she works at is just under 1,000 miles away. :eek: With that being the huge mountain of an obstacle, I can't see anything working out. But am I wrong? Also, I we exchanged numbers. Is there any small-talk text I can send? Just trying to think of ideas.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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CantTouchMyStyle

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Did I read this right?

1) Potentially could get canned from what seems to be a decent job.

2) Girl is over 1,000 miles away?

No man.
 

Mr. Goods

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CantTouchMyStyle said:
Did I read this right?

1) Potentially could get canned from what seems to be a decent job.

2) Girl is over 1,000 miles away?

No man.
Well, #1 (from your list) is in effect at work. The #2 part is definitely the problem.
 

PectoralisMajor

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yea, text this,

hi xxx, its blah blah from 'insert your name'. I enjoyed working with you last night - if your next around town anytime soon let me know.

then leave it. the door has been left open, see?
 

Mr. Goods

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PectoralisMajor said:
yea, text this,

hi xxx, its blah blah from 'insert your name'. I enjoyed working with you last night - if your next around town anytime soon let me know.

then leave it. the door has been left open, see?
That sounds like it can work, thanks. :up:
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Chickfight

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I think it can work. The thing is, external factors that make it harder for you to be together can work in your favor to increase attraction, if you spin it the right way. Act like the kind of guy who lives in the moment and doesn't care about what happens in the future. If there's a girl who you get along with really well, it doesn't matter to you that she lives 1000 miles away as long as she's there NOW and you can spend time with her NOW.

That's why when you're on vacation somewhere and you tell a girl you're leaving in a week, she'll still hook up with you and is even MORE likely to. There's something romantic about it I guess.
 
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