"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I can't control the Drunk Dialing urge

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I'm always pulling out my phone when I'm drunk, calling my friends... anybody and everybody.

I got this girl's number like a year ago from the bar, I ended up ruining my chances with her by drunk dialing. The worst part is I still remember her number and drunk dial her every time I'm tanked.

It's like I just can't control it. Do you think I just don't care, or is it something else?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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If they really like you then I don't think it will matter. I drunk dial a lot, most girls find it flattering and quite humorous. Don't beat yourself up for it. If it's creating such a problem for you try not bringing your phone then. Or having a friend hold it for you. Or place it somewhere for awhile instead of having it on you constantly.
 

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Wait a minute. You ruined your chances with some chick you met at the bar because of drunk dialing? Did you two ever date?
 

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Before you go drinking, take the battery out and leave it with a friend or in your car or something.

I'd like to see you drunk dial without it.
 

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It could be that you are lonely and don't feel connected to anyone. not even your friends. you reach out to anyone when you are drunk. I used to drunk dial the girl I thought I was in love with every time I was drunk and single. When I as seeing someone I never did.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Snowman23

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I'm not gonna lie guys. Here's the story.

I knew her from work a little over a year ago. We rarely talked as we were in different departments. She ended up quitting. 6 months later I saw her at the bar, we talked for a bit (I was drunk) and I got her number. I called to set something up with her for the next weekend (I was drunk again), and it's been nothing but random drunk dials ever since. The only time I've ever even talked to this chick is when I'm wasted. So I'm thinking major confidence issues.

And Warrior that's true, in a weird way I don't feel connected to anyone. I don't know why, it's weird.
 

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It is something else... called immaturity. That's the truth, not a personal attack.
A. Don't drink so much that you call people you wouldn't otherwise talk to at that time.
B. Delete any numbers out of your phone if you have not talked to that person in several months (esp. girls)
C. Grow up.
 

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Inside man the problem is I still remember her number and call it every time I'm drunk.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Next time you get the urge to drunk dial, go out to the sidewalk, get down on your hands and knees, apply forehead to pavement at high velocity repeatedly until urge to drunk dial passes or you pass out from blood loss.
 

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Don't get that drunk! simple as that. Be more responsible, even though it's a club or a party.
 

Frog X

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How drunk are you getting? Cause I know I only ever get the urge to do it if Im really really really hammered, even then I know only to call close friends/family.

Maybe limit you intake a little?
 
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