"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I can't control the Drunk Dialing urge

Snowman23

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I'm always pulling out my phone when I'm drunk, calling my friends... anybody and everybody.

I got this girl's number like a year ago from the bar, I ended up ruining my chances with her by drunk dialing. The worst part is I still remember her number and drunk dial her every time I'm tanked.

It's like I just can't control it. Do you think I just don't care, or is it something else?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Scars

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If they really like you then I don't think it will matter. I drunk dial a lot, most girls find it flattering and quite humorous. Don't beat yourself up for it. If it's creating such a problem for you try not bringing your phone then. Or having a friend hold it for you. Or place it somewhere for awhile instead of having it on you constantly.
 

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Wait a minute. You ruined your chances with some chick you met at the bar because of drunk dialing? Did you two ever date?
 

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Before you go drinking, take the battery out and leave it with a friend or in your car or something.

I'd like to see you drunk dial without it.
 

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It could be that you are lonely and don't feel connected to anyone. not even your friends. you reach out to anyone when you are drunk. I used to drunk dial the girl I thought I was in love with every time I was drunk and single. When I as seeing someone I never did.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Snowman23

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I'm not gonna lie guys. Here's the story.

I knew her from work a little over a year ago. We rarely talked as we were in different departments. She ended up quitting. 6 months later I saw her at the bar, we talked for a bit (I was drunk) and I got her number. I called to set something up with her for the next weekend (I was drunk again), and it's been nothing but random drunk dials ever since. The only time I've ever even talked to this chick is when I'm wasted. So I'm thinking major confidence issues.

And Warrior that's true, in a weird way I don't feel connected to anyone. I don't know why, it's weird.
 

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It is something else... called immaturity. That's the truth, not a personal attack.
A. Don't drink so much that you call people you wouldn't otherwise talk to at that time.
B. Delete any numbers out of your phone if you have not talked to that person in several months (esp. girls)
C. Grow up.
 

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Inside man the problem is I still remember her number and call it every time I'm drunk.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Next time you get the urge to drunk dial, go out to the sidewalk, get down on your hands and knees, apply forehead to pavement at high velocity repeatedly until urge to drunk dial passes or you pass out from blood loss.
 

daygameguy

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Don't get that drunk! simple as that. Be more responsible, even though it's a club or a party.
 

Frog X

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How drunk are you getting? Cause I know I only ever get the urge to do it if Im really really really hammered, even then I know only to call close friends/family.

Maybe limit you intake a little?
 
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