"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I cannot think without sex...

drixsa

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ok quick explanation:

dating g-f from late Nov. to mid january of this year (sex about 2-3 times a week.

i go home for one month, mid jan- mid feb (no sex for 4 whole weeks)

been back for 8 days (sex 2-3 times a day)

and the relationship is great and all but i just cannot think straight until i have sex, its rediculous, hell i cannot even cook myself a meal either.

any help on centering myself without having sex (and masturbating)???
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I only go near the books after I blow my load off. It's so distracting. :)

So get it off by whatever means necessary and I mean WHATEVER MEANS NECESSARY.
 

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so whats new? I work 10 hours a day and all i can do is go on the internet and look at girlie pics( no nudes of course for fear of getting fired)

I sometimes just wanna go into the bathroom and jerk off but never have for fear of getting caught.
 
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Have you no other ambitions in your life? If not then you are an incomplete man! If you are a man, there must be other issues in your life than getting some. Now is a good time to reevalute where you are going in life!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Bah I've learned a lot from this website, but don't listen about the masterbation part- it's only is bad to masterbate when you do as a substitute for sex all the time. I get laid all the time but that doesn't mean I don't try to break records in knocking over cans each day. It's good exercise for the dudes who hate those PC (I think that's it) exercises too.
 

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Originally posted by Ice Cold
I only go near the books after I blow my load off. It's so distracting. :)

So get it off by whatever means necessary and I mean WHATEVER MEANS NECESSARY.
...masturbation, Hot tub peep holes, hell, a goat if I can find one!!!

Ahahahahahahahahaha No disrespect Ice, but that was too funny to ignore.

The problem here is also not a lack of competing desires. No one said choosing to apply your energies to something more than simple ejaculation was easy. Tell me if I'm full of it, but one of the reasons why you want to avoid masturbation is so that the times you are with your girl are better. I can respect that. Part of the problem you might be having is that you've grown so accustomed to regularly ejaculation that you've eastablished and are now upsetting your own biorhythm.

Anyway, meditation and other means of concentrating on singular items or concepts usually helps. Even if that means throwing on some less-than-arousing music or sounds.
 

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Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
Have you no other ambitions in your life? If not then you are an incomplete man! If you are a man, there must be other issues in your life than getting some. Now is a good time to reevalute where you are going in life!
In two weeks i am going into the israeli army so i guess i have to get all the sex out of me...

ofcourse i have other issues in my life, i don't think that i said that i didn't but maybe one day when you get older and don't spend every day clogging up the sosuave discussion board then you may have an opp. to understand what i am talking about.
 

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Originally posted by drixsa
In two weeks i am going into the israeli army so i guess i have to get all the sex out of me...

ofcourse i have other issues in my life, i don't think that i said that i didn't but maybe one day when you get older and don't spend every day clogging up the sosuave discussion board then you may have an opp. to understand what i am talking about.
Good luck in the Israeli Army. Yes you need to get as much as you can......that strip is a very bad place to serve in.
 
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If I'm 'clogging up' the sosuave board it is only because I am compelled to help young distorted minds who state that they "can't think straight without having sex"!!:rolleyes:
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
If I'm 'clogging up' the sosuave board it is only because I am compelled to help young distorted minds who state that they "can't think straight without having sex"!!:rolleyes:
hehe they are distorted.. im 18 and i didnt jack off for about past 40 days and im doing fine, never felt better :)
 

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My last LTR, when i was without sex for a week, i was in an absolute urge to have it. Sometimes my girlfriend wanted to go somewhere, but i needed to have sex before wanting to do something else. After sex, i would be a lot more calm, and able to concentrate on doing some of the stuff she liked. I even told her about this need of mine, and she understood, and actually liked it .)
 

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Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
If I'm 'clogging up' the sosuave board it is only because I am compelled to help young distorted minds who state that they "can't think straight without having sex"!!
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thats nice and all but being compelled to help and actually helping are quite different things...maybe if you weren't so busy 'clogging up' the forum then you might have something to compare my situation to.


Originally posted by rawsync
hehe they are distorted.. im 18 and i didnt jack off for about past 40 days and im doing fine, never felt better :)
thats great and all but i have no need to make myself go through this, maybe one day when my options suck...naa i'd still never do this
My last LTR, when i was without sex for a week, i was in an absolute urge to have it. Sometimes my girlfriend wanted to go somewhere, but i needed to have sex before wanting to do something else. After sex, i would be a lot more calm, and able to concentrate on doing some of the stuff she liked. I even told her about this need of mine, and she understood, and actually liked it .)
nice story but you are repeating my question not answering it.
 
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