"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I Called my gf, and it ended with her family all laughing at me

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HEy guys , well an hour ago or so, my girl friend called, but i didnt hear it, so then i called back, and her step dad picked up the phone and said "Hello?"

I Said : Hi, may i please speak to "Her name".

He said "Shes busy doing homework, wait hold on.

So she picks up the phone.. I say . "Hey"

She *laughs*, and i hear her say "Dad dont be so mean".

OKAY! im like what the ****! what did he say? she wouldnt tell me. but then i basically hear her entire family talking about me in the background and laughing. then i try to talk to her but she sounds too busy, and she then laughs and hangs up. this pisssssssssed me the **** off.

then she calls back, and im like "what do you want??"

and then i ask her "what did your step dad say that was so mean and had your whole family talking about me and laughing??"


it took a few tries, but she finally told me "He said that when you call that you talk all slow, and you take forever to say anything and you sound stupid".

I'm like , "what the hell?? I take 5 seconds to say anything after they say hello? no i dont"

She says " Well they all say you do, and thats three people, so it must be true"

I get so ****in pissed off. i told her to tell her dad to go fck himself, and i hung up.


WEll......... i was really pissed off, im even pissed off at my Girl friend. do you think i have the right? or you think i am being insecure?? i just feel that its very messed up how they were,. and especialy since she didnt even back me up , and she laughed with them. i got so pissed off i feel like ending my relationship with this cvnt, but now not so much.

Anyways, now im afraid to call there house anymore... what should i do??
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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yeah you overreacted dude...


shoulda joked around.
 

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Ok, being the ass of a joke is not generally a good thing... but blowing up the situation is a lot worse ;-)

It sounds like she doesn't have a great deal of respect for you either.

But you still shouldn't have freaked out over it. Clown with it. Either way it'l make you feel better about the whole thing instead of letting it get straight under your skin.
 

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Yes, the key is to keep your cool in situations like this. Always be cool.

A good DJ would have said somthing to the effect of: "I talk slow cuz I just know you love my sexy voice" or, if you wanted to bust on her, say "I talk slow because your brain is even slower" (said sarcastically of course)

My biggest problem was not keeping my cool, and taking everything so seriously. Girls who like you will tease on you a bit, may even make fun of you, but if you keep your cool, you show her you are comfortable with yourself.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Or just be like: I talk slow cause I know your daddy likes that. (said in a sexy voice....)


Just kidding!

The above poster got it right on the money.
 

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donjuanapprentice01 said:
Yes, the key is to keep your cool in situations like this. Always be cool.

A good DJ would have said somthing to the effect of: "I talk slow cuz I just know you love my sexy voice" or, if you wanted to bust on her, say "I talk slow because your brain is even slower" (said sarcastically of course)

My biggest problem was not keeping my cool, and taking everything so seriously. Girls who like you will tease on you a bit, may even make fun of you, but if you keep your cool, you show her you are comfortable with yourself.
You got it right on the money! Good advice man.
 

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ay tawlk to--o s- l-ow ??:crackup:
 

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Yeah, you definitely took things a little bit too seriously. From what you've described, it sounds like her dad was just messing around and didn't mean any harm. Just try to keep it cool next time.
 

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you know what i was going to say you did the right thing but i'm the type of dude that don't get mad easily and gets mad only when something is personal for all you know she could have been laughing at david spade so you should have said what's so funny so i can laugh and if she said umm nothing then you should have said i can laugh at myself too but then again she might have been telling your parents your an ******* have a little **** and is needy trust me that what my sister does everyday
 

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She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I would find something to take the piss out of him for....then do it in front of everyone. Plus whenever i talked to him i would speak......like.......this........really........slow........so........it........would......piss.......him........off.......

You overacted way to much.......If your girl asks what went off....Just say you were having a bad day or something.
 

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Haha you totaly overeacted. The fact that they're taking the piss out of you atleast shows a certain ammount of acceptance on their side. He's her dad even if you aren't that young he'll still see you as a kid and have a joke about you.

I wouldn't try to get him back like some people here advise. Just call back once you've regained your cool but when they pick up the phone talk really super slow so that it's almost comical and they catch on. That way you'll show that although you blew your fuse before you are cool now and aren't to stuck up to take the piss out of yourself a bit. Chances are it will be cool. Say something "Hi uh....like...wow....could...I talk to uh....your daughter...maybe?"

Jeez losen up.
 

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donjuanapprentice01 said:
Yes, the key is to keep your cool in situations like this. Always be cool.

A good DJ would have said somthing to the effect of: "I talk slow cuz I just know you love my sexy voice" or, if you wanted to bust on her, say "I talk slow because your brain is even slower" (said sarcastically of course)

My biggest problem was not keeping my cool, and taking everything so seriously. Girls who like you will tease on you a bit, may even make fun of you, but if you keep your cool, you show her you are comfortable with yourself.
I agree too! sounds like you overreacted and showed yourself to be very insecure.

Maybe you should've taken it as constructive criticism and reconsidered the way you speak. Like all criticisms, insults and rejections, they're there to learn from.
 

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your fvucking his daughter, WHAT DO YOU CARE???
Exactly! I would have just smiled thinking about the load that I sprayed on his daughter's face the night before! :up:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Bullsh*t. They weren't joking around with him, they were mocking him behind his back and he caught them. Dasani, you are either a troll or too stupid to live. I would have dumped this girl months ago. I would have asked to speak to the dad and said, "hey, you know what's really funny? That your daughter is f*cking the guy who is too stupid to reply quickly enough to suit your fancy."

I'm comfortable with people hating me though.
 

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far from average said:
Bullsh*t. They weren't joking around with him, they were mocking him behind his back and he caught them. Dasani, you are either a troll or too stupid to live. I would have dumped this girl months ago. I would have asked to speak to the dad and said, "hey, you know what's really funny? That your daughter is f*cking the guy who is too stupid to reply quickly enough to suit your fancy."

I'm comfortable with people hating me though.

What does this accomplish?
 

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spider_007 said:
your fvucking his daughter, WHAT DO YOU CARE???
One problem.......STEP Dad

Why would he give a ****?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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