"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I Called my gf, and it ended with her family all laughing at me

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HEy guys , well an hour ago or so, my girl friend called, but i didnt hear it, so then i called back, and her step dad picked up the phone and said "Hello?"

I Said : Hi, may i please speak to "Her name".

He said "Shes busy doing homework, wait hold on.

So she picks up the phone.. I say . "Hey"

She *laughs*, and i hear her say "Dad dont be so mean".

OKAY! im like what the ****! what did he say? she wouldnt tell me. but then i basically hear her entire family talking about me in the background and laughing. then i try to talk to her but she sounds too busy, and she then laughs and hangs up. this pisssssssssed me the **** off.

then she calls back, and im like "what do you want??"

and then i ask her "what did your step dad say that was so mean and had your whole family talking about me and laughing??"


it took a few tries, but she finally told me "He said that when you call that you talk all slow, and you take forever to say anything and you sound stupid".

I'm like , "what the hell?? I take 5 seconds to say anything after they say hello? no i dont"

She says " Well they all say you do, and thats three people, so it must be true"

I get so ****in pissed off. i told her to tell her dad to go fck himself, and i hung up.


WEll......... i was really pissed off, im even pissed off at my Girl friend. do you think i have the right? or you think i am being insecure?? i just feel that its very messed up how they were,. and especialy since she didnt even back me up , and she laughed with them. i got so pissed off i feel like ending my relationship with this cvnt, but now not so much.

Anyways, now im afraid to call there house anymore... what should i do??
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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yeah you overreacted dude...


shoulda joked around.
 

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Ok, being the ass of a joke is not generally a good thing... but blowing up the situation is a lot worse ;-)

It sounds like she doesn't have a great deal of respect for you either.

But you still shouldn't have freaked out over it. Clown with it. Either way it'l make you feel better about the whole thing instead of letting it get straight under your skin.
 

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Yes, the key is to keep your cool in situations like this. Always be cool.

A good DJ would have said somthing to the effect of: "I talk slow cuz I just know you love my sexy voice" or, if you wanted to bust on her, say "I talk slow because your brain is even slower" (said sarcastically of course)

My biggest problem was not keeping my cool, and taking everything so seriously. Girls who like you will tease on you a bit, may even make fun of you, but if you keep your cool, you show her you are comfortable with yourself.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Or just be like: I talk slow cause I know your daddy likes that. (said in a sexy voice....)


Just kidding!

The above poster got it right on the money.
 

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donjuanapprentice01 said:
Yes, the key is to keep your cool in situations like this. Always be cool.

A good DJ would have said somthing to the effect of: "I talk slow cuz I just know you love my sexy voice" or, if you wanted to bust on her, say "I talk slow because your brain is even slower" (said sarcastically of course)

My biggest problem was not keeping my cool, and taking everything so seriously. Girls who like you will tease on you a bit, may even make fun of you, but if you keep your cool, you show her you are comfortable with yourself.
You got it right on the money! Good advice man.
 

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ay tawlk to--o s- l-ow ??:crackup:
 

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Yeah, you definitely took things a little bit too seriously. From what you've described, it sounds like her dad was just messing around and didn't mean any harm. Just try to keep it cool next time.
 

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you know what i was going to say you did the right thing but i'm the type of dude that don't get mad easily and gets mad only when something is personal for all you know she could have been laughing at david spade so you should have said what's so funny so i can laugh and if she said umm nothing then you should have said i can laugh at myself too but then again she might have been telling your parents your an ******* have a little **** and is needy trust me that what my sister does everyday
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I would find something to take the piss out of him for....then do it in front of everyone. Plus whenever i talked to him i would speak......like.......this........really........slow........so........it........would......piss.......him........off.......

You overacted way to much.......If your girl asks what went off....Just say you were having a bad day or something.
 

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Haha you totaly overeacted. The fact that they're taking the piss out of you atleast shows a certain ammount of acceptance on their side. He's her dad even if you aren't that young he'll still see you as a kid and have a joke about you.

I wouldn't try to get him back like some people here advise. Just call back once you've regained your cool but when they pick up the phone talk really super slow so that it's almost comical and they catch on. That way you'll show that although you blew your fuse before you are cool now and aren't to stuck up to take the piss out of yourself a bit. Chances are it will be cool. Say something "Hi uh....like...wow....could...I talk to uh....your daughter...maybe?"

Jeez losen up.
 

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donjuanapprentice01 said:
Yes, the key is to keep your cool in situations like this. Always be cool.

A good DJ would have said somthing to the effect of: "I talk slow cuz I just know you love my sexy voice" or, if you wanted to bust on her, say "I talk slow because your brain is even slower" (said sarcastically of course)

My biggest problem was not keeping my cool, and taking everything so seriously. Girls who like you will tease on you a bit, may even make fun of you, but if you keep your cool, you show her you are comfortable with yourself.
I agree too! sounds like you overreacted and showed yourself to be very insecure.

Maybe you should've taken it as constructive criticism and reconsidered the way you speak. Like all criticisms, insults and rejections, they're there to learn from.
 

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spider_007 said:
your fvucking his daughter, WHAT DO YOU CARE???
Exactly! I would have just smiled thinking about the load that I sprayed on his daughter's face the night before! :up:
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Bullsh*t. They weren't joking around with him, they were mocking him behind his back and he caught them. Dasani, you are either a troll or too stupid to live. I would have dumped this girl months ago. I would have asked to speak to the dad and said, "hey, you know what's really funny? That your daughter is f*cking the guy who is too stupid to reply quickly enough to suit your fancy."

I'm comfortable with people hating me though.
 

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far from average said:
Bullsh*t. They weren't joking around with him, they were mocking him behind his back and he caught them. Dasani, you are either a troll or too stupid to live. I would have dumped this girl months ago. I would have asked to speak to the dad and said, "hey, you know what's really funny? That your daughter is f*cking the guy who is too stupid to reply quickly enough to suit your fancy."

I'm comfortable with people hating me though.

What does this accomplish?
 

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spider_007 said:
your fvucking his daughter, WHAT DO YOU CARE???
One problem.......STEP Dad

Why would he give a ****?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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