Do you see what you did OP? When you stopped acting like she's your only reason for living and texting her every 5 seconds her interest went up. This is the dynamic you should have throughout the entire relationship. Never put in more work that she is. If she gets distant you get even more distant. If you would've read and applied the damn bible you would've never gotten in this situation. Read http://www.mts.net/~bpony/djbible/. Read..as a matter of fact read the whole damn blog http://heartiste.wordpress.com/the-sixteen-commandments-of-poon/. And read http://therationalmale.com/.PoZest said:
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
I broke NC. Having a talk tomorrow
- Thread starter PoZest
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Harsh but true.PlayHer Man said:Pay attention because this is important: The second you fear losing a woman is the second you become her slave.
Got it? You can't have power in a relationship where you are AFRAID of losing the girl. It turns you into a b!tch and you lose that masculine attitude of strength and courage that women find so appealing. NO WOMAN WANTS A MAN WHO IS WEAKER THAN HER.
Men need to learn that becoming deeply bonded with a woman EMOTIONALLY is the vary thing that makes her lose respect and attraction for him. A man in love is a weak, passive faggot.
VIDEO --> http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ejSq-_NzAps
Women HATE passive faggots.
Harsh but trueDie Hard said:To continue... This is what happens when you don't respect yourself!
What are the basics of SoSuave? Read fvcking Book of Pook and remind yourself of the lessons.
RESPECT IS ALL. The bytch must respect you and you must make her respect you! If she disrespects you, you grab your balls and stand up for yourself! You are THE PRIZE, remember?!
But hey, how can you expect a bytch to respect you, if you don't even respect YOURSELF?
WTF is this attitude?!?!?! "I'm worthless and she's a goddess..." The moment you catch yourself holding such beta thoughts, you should go find a rope and hang yourself. It's either that or you kick yourself in the butt and get real angry and eliminate those chump thoughts. Life is a fvcking battlefield, you either sink or swim, you either eat or get eaten. Other people are trying to get you down, your own thoughts are trying to get you down, your own emotions are trying to get you down, random events are trying to get you down.... LIFE ITSELF is trying to get you down!!
So pick up your goddamn sword and fight, instead of letting the enemy squash you like a fvcking ****roach.... Like I said, if you are not gonna do that, then just go and KILL YOURSELF, coz it's the same thing! Either the world kills you or you kill yourself, makes no fvckin difference... The only alternative to that, is to be a man and fight! So make your choice!
Dude get some razors and slash your wrists.plate's_empty said:I could barely get through that one. Sighed a few times, shook my head a few more. Just shook my head again.
PoZest said:I kept up NC for a bit but we were both on the same night out with about 10 mutual friends. I intended to give her no attention this night, but she came to me and spoke, danced with me, where I had been talking with others. Since then we have been talking again.
So my no contact wasn't really no contact it was more like no initiating meets, or texting first. But it lasted 5 days, and she said she misses me 2 days ago and asked to see me. We went for food, a drive and had sex (it was the first time in about 5 weeks), and we did this today also. I'm finding it a lot easier as I was getting over her until she text. I am now not letting myself get feelings for her, I definitely won't tell her I love her again or anything like that, although she's said it yesterday, I just ignored it.
I know my problem the last time was being too available and my oneitis for her. So I've also been speaking to other women, not went out with anyone else yet though. She's saying things as if she wants me to say I love her, putting herself down and fishing for compliments etc. I have tried to just avoid anything like that and just carry on like it is. I'd like some advice on not getting oneitis so bad again and appearing as AFC is I was a few weeks back.
She asked me to stay at her house when her parents are away next week.
I'm unsure on what to do until then. How many times should I see her in the next 9 days until then.
Don't know whether I should initiate the next meet or not.
I'm also wondering what to do about the non stop text thing. She's started to text me a lot again and I do always reply, not boring, I'm funny, but is it recommended to cut this down, and only text a couple of times a day?
This dude is trolling...
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.