This girl I've been seeing for on and off for the past year in which I used to do all the DJ moves like not complimenting her, not giving her as much attention, being ****y and funny, doing some kino moves or whatnot, not always be available for her. Pretty much all of the main principles of being a dj to her and you know what?? I never got anywhere with her doing this. She would always have some wall emotionally towards me where she keeps me guessing but not enough that I know she's not interested in me. She's slightly conceited and she's about an hb8.5 and into her looks. She actually acts like a dj herself with a C&F attitude too. She would talk about other guys (I assume to make me jealous). How all her guys are friends. You know, one of those girls. It's like the level of intimacy with her just stayed on one level for the longest time doing all the dj moves. I didn't even know what our status was 'till she tried to get me drunk one night and all the floodgates opened about our "relationship" because she mentioned some guy and I got mad and I started asking her questions because I was unsure about what the hell her and I were doing, you know the "are we just friends were we ever dating? We never did anything" When I said that, she just acted unaffected, unsure what to say or not listening to me. One day I just said Fvck it and I decided to break all the rules. I was ready to next her and thought what do I have to fvcking lose, right?? Let's do a little experiment. This is what I did. The next time I called her made plans to go out I gave her flowers, I complimented her a lot. I opened doors for her. On our date I told her how beautiful she was, while looking at her intensely with a frown on my face like a puppy, and she says "aww that's so sweet of you" and she just opened up grinning ear to ear. When she least expected it I hugged her from behind and gave her a kiss on the neck and just did it and then she actually liked it and kissed me after that. When we talk to each other, she opens up more and became more submissive towards me. She started holding my hand. When we're walking she's just hugging me like a couple would as we're walking like she doesn't want to let me go. She stopped talking about other guys to make me jealous. If I'm talking to her on the phone and I try to want to see her that night and she says that she can't because her sister is sick so she has to take care of her. I become mushy (I know totally afc but I did it anyway cause fvck it) and told her, "maybe I should get sick too so that you'll spend time with me" (you know in that wussy mushy voice). After that she just melted and made plans the next day giving me the "awww" voice telling me how sweet I was. After that I had this voice be kinda like almost crying voice, "ok.. *sigh* I guess I'll talk to you later when your sister's not sick" sounding like an innocent little boy She then called me the next day to do something and it's not the pity hang out either because the first thing she did was hug me and then kiss me when she saw me. And if I didn't know any better within one week I'd say that she was now my girlfriend. In short, she acted different, she didn't have a huge wall around me as before. She opened up emotionally to the way I wanted her. Basically what I'm asking is this, I have progressed forward with this girl in one week doing what could be perceived as afc behavior than the last 8 months trying to hook up with this girl doing DJ moves. What is going on??!!! Can someone please please explain this. I'm not in anyway promoting afc behavior I just want to know, what the hell??!! Also any girls on the board help answer this question too. Thanks to anyone that can help me understand.