"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I thought maybe it was a one off... How I was wrong.

They confide in me, complain to me, sulk, be irrational.

Then when I console them, they listen for a bit, then they take a turn and start arguing with me....


Its not that I've said something wrong, they just turn on me...

Quick responses and help appreciated because its happening right now over texts, and this is like the 5th girl the same thing has happened with......
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Balance.

You are not a doormat (Unless you let yourself be one)

Instead of being their emotional tampon, rather let them know that you're a guy with a lot to offer and you are interested in more than just listening to their problems (If this indeed your intentions)

And if they "turn" on you when you confide in them, then instead of pointing this out to us, why don't you try point this out to them?

Change is a decision away, so decide to stop being a doormat, and start being the prize.
 
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Like attracts like.
 
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