"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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matygee

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she asks me to tell her one good reason why she should give it to me?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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"Because we both know that you want to. ;)"
 

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matygee said:
she asks me to tell her one good reason why she should give it to me?
"I have a pathetic excuse for a penis and I thought you'd do me the honour of laughing at it."
 

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Umm did you actually talk to her before that or was that your opening line...
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I'd probably say something like

"Whoa, thanks for disqualifying yourself by being snotty and arrogant. Have a nice day!"

and turn around and walk away. IF she's a decent person and was just busy / tired of getting hit on / having her B1tch Shield on, she might just reinitiate conversation. And if she doesn't I wouldn't want her anyway.

But that's just me, your mileage may vary!
 

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Godless,

Not a bad response at all and it gives her a chance to qualify herself if shes actually cool.
 

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To be honest, it's REALLY hard to actually come up with something like that on the spot, because we're too startled and only have like 2 seconds to blurt something out.

Maybe David DeAngelo is right and we should have stuff like that mentally rehearsed for common "Fark off, you loser!" lines women hurl at us.

Even though it sounds dorky :eek:
 

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
"Because we both know that you want to. ;)"
This is great; i cant improve upon it. I much prefer upping the ****iness level to you instead of a more reactive response (that disempowers you IMO) like godless listed.

Reestablishing and maintaining your self-respect is priority #1. Getting the girl too is merely ancillary.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Or, you can save yourself time and figure out why she won't give you her email address just like that *snap* in the first place.

VAC=Attraction => Value, Attainability, Compliance... I'm guessing with this situation, you have plenty of attainability but no value nor do you have compliance.

If the woman's interested in you ie. there's attraction of some sorts, you wouldn't be getting this test.

Although, you can turn attraction around based on the response you give to this question... Milano and Francisco's replies are gold indeed.
 

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azanon said:
This is great; i cant improve upon it. I much prefer upping the ****iness level to you instead of a more reactive response (that disempowers you IMO) like godless listed...
Very good point! :up: Keeping a good balance between ****iness, humor and confidence directed at the other person rather than a reactive response helps you in not mistakenly saying something that is condescending. This is the problem that guys have when they come off as *******s instead of being ****y or funny.
 

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Firstly, you're asking for her e-mail address. No offence but do you know how pathetic that sounds when you could of asked for her number? Unfortunately it shows you don't have balls.. which is a good reason for her to ask you to give one good reason.. even though she shouldn't of said that.

Think about it. By the way, was she being a cow or just being a little playful?

The Muscly Jerk
 

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musclyjerk said:
Firstly, you're asking for her e-mail address. No offence but do you know how pathetic that sounds when you could of asked for her number? Unfortunately it shows you don't have balls
I have to disagree.

He asked for a way to contact her but never revealed his true intentions. She replied with a very playful sh1t test which means she was interested. If he had asked for her phone number he would probably get the same question. It seems that she was interested in him from the begining so it doesn't matter if its her email or phone number that he gets. He could always ask for her phone number later through the email.

Getting the contact method is not as important as what you do with it.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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