"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I am Not Looking for Relationship

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I arranged a date with this bird over the phone. Before we spoke she said "Listen I just want to be honest and say I am not looking for a relationship but I do want to meet you"

How would you percieve this when a woman says that ? other then she might just want a shag without strings attached ???
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Originally posted by englishcrap
she might just want a shag without strings attached ???
Either that, or she's just been "damaged" by a nasty break-up with someone else and doesn't want to re-involve too soon.

Or she IS looking for a relationship and doesn't know what the hell she wants. (this is always a possibility worth considering :p )
 

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Translation:"I'm really attracted to you bad... and I don't like it... I'm scared... scared I'll be hurt again"

She not opposed to a relationship but not one where she gets used like a tampon and discarded.
 

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Originally posted by englishcrap
other then she might just want a shag without strings attached ???
I was wondering abt the same thing since im not looking for a relationship.

Girl: Im not looking for a relationship
Me: Do you say that subjectively or objectively ? :eek:

Because when I say that im being objective ...but who knows what exactly they mean damn womans! :mad:
 

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I figure it's cause she doesn't want to make you think that you're gonna become her boyfriend before she sees you in person and sizes you up one on one. AFter that, if she likes you in person, her tune will change.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Originally posted by englishcrap
I arranged a date with this bird over the phone. Before we spoke she said "Listen I just want to be honest and say I am not looking for a relationship but I do want to meet you"

How would you percieve this when a woman says that ? other then she might just want a shag without strings attached ???
If your game is on par it doesnt ever matter what the hell she meant. There are a million things she could have meant, she could have not meant anything and just wanted to make sure you keep her on your mind. Who knows, the question you need to be asking yourself is what do you want out of this. That is what being a man is, the world is yours. Forget what game she is trying to throw at you stratagize the type of game you are planning on throwing at her!
 

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Exactly - what Royal Elite said.

Don't worry what she says to you... womenoften say one thing and do another.
 

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Yes the comment means nothing.

In my experience it has basically been used after the girl has just gotten out of a LTR.

You play your cards right, she'll still be yours.

Find out sometime subtely about her past relationships/where the guy is/the status.
 

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Originally posted by englishcrap
I arranged a date with this bird over the phone. Before we spoke she said "Listen I just want to be honest and say I am not looking for a relationship but I do want to meet you"

How would you percieve this when a woman says that ? other then she might just want a shag without strings attached ???
don't even listen to this comment. Just keep doing what you want to do with her.

I have friends who just reply with, "ok good I just want some fun anyway"

It seems to work with them
 
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