"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I am Not Looking for Relationship

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I arranged a date with this bird over the phone. Before we spoke she said "Listen I just want to be honest and say I am not looking for a relationship but I do want to meet you"

How would you percieve this when a woman says that ? other then she might just want a shag without strings attached ???
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Originally posted by englishcrap
she might just want a shag without strings attached ???
Either that, or she's just been "damaged" by a nasty break-up with someone else and doesn't want to re-involve too soon.

Or she IS looking for a relationship and doesn't know what the hell she wants. (this is always a possibility worth considering :p )
 

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Translation:"I'm really attracted to you bad... and I don't like it... I'm scared... scared I'll be hurt again"

She not opposed to a relationship but not one where she gets used like a tampon and discarded.
 

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Originally posted by englishcrap
other then she might just want a shag without strings attached ???
I was wondering abt the same thing since im not looking for a relationship.

Girl: Im not looking for a relationship
Me: Do you say that subjectively or objectively ? :eek:

Because when I say that im being objective ...but who knows what exactly they mean damn womans! :mad:
 

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I figure it's cause she doesn't want to make you think that you're gonna become her boyfriend before she sees you in person and sizes you up one on one. AFter that, if she likes you in person, her tune will change.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Originally posted by englishcrap
I arranged a date with this bird over the phone. Before we spoke she said "Listen I just want to be honest and say I am not looking for a relationship but I do want to meet you"

How would you percieve this when a woman says that ? other then she might just want a shag without strings attached ???
If your game is on par it doesnt ever matter what the hell she meant. There are a million things she could have meant, she could have not meant anything and just wanted to make sure you keep her on your mind. Who knows, the question you need to be asking yourself is what do you want out of this. That is what being a man is, the world is yours. Forget what game she is trying to throw at you stratagize the type of game you are planning on throwing at her!
 

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Exactly - what Royal Elite said.

Don't worry what she says to you... womenoften say one thing and do another.
 

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Yes the comment means nothing.

In my experience it has basically been used after the girl has just gotten out of a LTR.

You play your cards right, she'll still be yours.

Find out sometime subtely about her past relationships/where the guy is/the status.
 

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Originally posted by englishcrap
I arranged a date with this bird over the phone. Before we spoke she said "Listen I just want to be honest and say I am not looking for a relationship but I do want to meet you"

How would you percieve this when a woman says that ? other then she might just want a shag without strings attached ???
don't even listen to this comment. Just keep doing what you want to do with her.

I have friends who just reply with, "ok good I just want some fun anyway"

It seems to work with them
 
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