"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I am leaving SOSUAVE

djinhell

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In my opinion this forum has gone downhill quite heavily recently.

I have however learnt a great deal from this website, so I would like to thank everyone who has helped me in my threads, and the many people who created the helpful threads.

I feel I am at the stage now where there is nothing more I can learn from this place. Instead I need to actually start experiencing. I'm 24 now, and I need to stop lurking on the internet and playing video games, I need to be doing something more constructive i.e work related things or simply getting out and about.

Thats not to say I wont return someday when I need relationship advice etc, but not a day sooner.

Im sure this post will provoke some flaming, but honestly, this post is positive. I have come here, learnt a lot, and now I am leaving the nest so to speak. I am no longer AFC, so thankyou sosuave. :rockon:
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Conquer

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suck a fu4king d1ck dj
 

Da Realist

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It's probably not that the forum has gone down, but that you're in a different place in life. It happens. Good luck on offline life.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Thyme

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yea i think tht this websight is a gift that carries a curse. it can be addicting and many people just lurk the websight and dont go out. im recovering from this 'disease'
 

search1ng

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why can't we just do both at once? Sosuave and it's practical applications in real life. Way i see it, it's more a matter of self control.
 

piranha45

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because if we did both at once then we couldnt make a farewell thread that gives us a chance to inflate our overblown sense of self-importance and take a potshot at the board, all whilst giving a great excuse to not respond to anyone who disagrees or points out the inherent childishness of making such a thread.
 

PRMoon

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You'll be back! They ALL come back!!
 

Rogue

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PRMoon said:
You'll be back! They ALL come back!!
I learned my lesson on another forum years ago to never announce a departure, but I think Neanderthal Solider, who was ahead of my time, was wickedly clever. He asked the moderators to ban him.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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search1ng

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... whats stopping him from resetting his IP and making a new account?
 

Rogue

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search1ng said:
... whats stopping him from resetting his IP and making a new account?
Nothing, but if you ask for it to be done then you may have the resolve to stay away.
 

Conquer

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rogue go suck a d1ck already
 

3countriesPlan

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I've been following this site off and on since 2001! Every week it seems someone says the website has been going down the drain. Obviously you can't live on this website, but it is a very nice place to talk about issues that can't be talked about freely on other sites. Noone needs to ever just up and leave.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Mr. Me

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I think it's great that you got to that point where you feel you need to move on. Best wishes to you.
 

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I think mods should immediately lock these threads. Its not like djinhell is a well known poster anyway.
 

GQ_Confidence_1

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This site has got some great information, esp if you're starting at the bottom in highschool.

But honestly, 90% of the guys on this site would be so much better off if they lived in the outdoor world most of the day. And the internet becomes a small fraction of your life after a long day of doing something all day. I think a lot of people have it the other way around. People in the outdoor world are not overanalyzing things to death.

-Another problem with this site (or any seduction/get girls site) is that it creates too much anxiety and pressure to do something all the time. You should come up with your own wants and goals.
 

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anyone reading this and nodding there head should do the same.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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