"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I am firing you

amoka

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Meet HB two weeks ago. went on a date with her three days later and kiss close on the date. Attraction was high after few drinks and I ended up telling her het prof was my ex.

Talked to her today and we arranged to meet at her place later in the evening. She was supposed to inform me after she finishes watching her cousin plays in a basketball game. She never called so after another plate failed to show up, I texted the 1st girl saying " What happened to you? I am going to fire you" and never called her again. My question is whether such a comment was appropriate for the situation.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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wjh

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Your comment isn't a big deal.

You shouldn't have mentioned the ex, though. Never mention the ex, or anything about her, ever. She could just be a flake, and your ex had nothing to do with it, but mentioning that it is not advisable.
 

DJDamage

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Yeah don't mention the ex's early on.

Also when a girl flakes on you without explanation, don't text her, it made you look frustrated and weak even though you tried to incorporate humor as if it didn't bother you.
 

jophil28

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amoka said:
Attraction was high after few drinks and I ended up telling her het prof was my ex. .
" Attraction was high after a few drinks "... Perhaps attraction was high because of a few drrrrinks, and then it tanked because you thought that your 'confession' about the identity of your ex was gonna impress HB in some strange way.

Nah, SHE fired YOU.
 

amoka

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jophil28 said:
Nah, SHE fired YOU
You see, the problem with this forum is that we take things too seriously. I understand that telling her about my ex was a bad idea... blame it on the booze. But it does not mean she fired me as a result.


Anyway, I just received a text message from her this morning
don't fire me just yet... I didn't hear back from u
Apparently there was a miscommunication between us. Now Imma gonna give her another chance.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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She's keeping her options open...but she's not really "buying"...just window-shopping.

What were your "plans" for that night? Suggest something fun next time, something she'll WANT to do. And this time, if she comes out, turn the charm up high so she'll want to do stuff with YOU, instead of doing STUFF with you.
 

vitor

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Stop texting and pick up the phone...... I only text little things, when I want to ask a girl out, or confirm a date I will call them, you can tell a lot over the phone vs text messages...
 
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