"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I am firing you

amoka

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Meet HB two weeks ago. went on a date with her three days later and kiss close on the date. Attraction was high after few drinks and I ended up telling her het prof was my ex.

Talked to her today and we arranged to meet at her place later in the evening. She was supposed to inform me after she finishes watching her cousin plays in a basketball game. She never called so after another plate failed to show up, I texted the 1st girl saying " What happened to you? I am going to fire you" and never called her again. My question is whether such a comment was appropriate for the situation.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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wjh

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Your comment isn't a big deal.

You shouldn't have mentioned the ex, though. Never mention the ex, or anything about her, ever. She could just be a flake, and your ex had nothing to do with it, but mentioning that it is not advisable.
 

DJDamage

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Yeah don't mention the ex's early on.

Also when a girl flakes on you without explanation, don't text her, it made you look frustrated and weak even though you tried to incorporate humor as if it didn't bother you.
 

jophil28

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amoka said:
Attraction was high after few drinks and I ended up telling her het prof was my ex. .
" Attraction was high after a few drinks "... Perhaps attraction was high because of a few drrrrinks, and then it tanked because you thought that your 'confession' about the identity of your ex was gonna impress HB in some strange way.

Nah, SHE fired YOU.
 

amoka

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jophil28 said:
Nah, SHE fired YOU
You see, the problem with this forum is that we take things too seriously. I understand that telling her about my ex was a bad idea... blame it on the booze. But it does not mean she fired me as a result.


Anyway, I just received a text message from her this morning
don't fire me just yet... I didn't hear back from u
Apparently there was a miscommunication between us. Now Imma gonna give her another chance.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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squirrels

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She's keeping her options open...but she's not really "buying"...just window-shopping.

What were your "plans" for that night? Suggest something fun next time, something she'll WANT to do. And this time, if she comes out, turn the charm up high so she'll want to do stuff with YOU, instead of doing STUFF with you.
 

vitor

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Stop texting and pick up the phone...... I only text little things, when I want to ask a girl out, or confirm a date I will call them, you can tell a lot over the phone vs text messages...
 
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