"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I am an idiot or the importance of Nexting

Firefly

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So I met a girl, and we had a great time the first time. I then invited her out FOUR times, and not only did she flake all four times, she waited until a few hours beforehand each time to do so. The first time she did it, she claimed that she had work commitments and she does work in a job where she can get called on at the last moment, so I let it slide. She then did the same thing three more times. Luckily, after the first flake, I was always a little wary so I kept other plates spinning and so did not waste any of those evenings waiting around for her. The only invitation she turned up to was a massive party I threw which was very succesful. After the party, I invited her out again thinking that the social proof might be enough to change her attitude. Nope she flaked again at the last minute, sending a long text full of excuses why she couldn't make it while also asking me for advice regarding arranging a trip. I just sent her back a text saying "Whatever. Have a nice life." and deleted her from my facebook.

I think this highlights the importance of being disciplined and Nexting women as soon as they show disrespect or a lack of interest. Not doing otherwise just leads to wasted time and effort. If a woman shows a lack of interest at the beginning, it is usually unlikely that they may change their minds, especially if you keep on showing interest by asking them out.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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DJ SO STEVE

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Well we all know if a women is really interested she'll give you the time of day no doubt. If you were spinning plates and regularly going out, this wouldn't have happened. It's always best if the girl is more interested than you. The ony way to achieve that is to be a rare commodity. Being a rare commodity means you are surrounded by women who all want to be with you... Hell even men would want to be around you.

It's like playing a role playing game and you get the best weapon. Everyone wants to be on your team or wants what you have. People will follow.
 

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Firefly said:
I then invited her out FOUR times, and not only did she flake all four times, she waited until a few hours beforehand each time to do so.

I think this highlights the importance of being disciplined and Nexting women as soon as they show disrespect or a lack of interest.
FOUR times ? FOUR flakes ! Yikes,you do like pain and punishment don't you.

Read your own "advice" in the last sentence above.

2 strikes is 'game over'.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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