"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I am an idiot or the importance of Nexting

Firefly

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So I met a girl, and we had a great time the first time. I then invited her out FOUR times, and not only did she flake all four times, she waited until a few hours beforehand each time to do so. The first time she did it, she claimed that she had work commitments and she does work in a job where she can get called on at the last moment, so I let it slide. She then did the same thing three more times. Luckily, after the first flake, I was always a little wary so I kept other plates spinning and so did not waste any of those evenings waiting around for her. The only invitation she turned up to was a massive party I threw which was very succesful. After the party, I invited her out again thinking that the social proof might be enough to change her attitude. Nope she flaked again at the last minute, sending a long text full of excuses why she couldn't make it while also asking me for advice regarding arranging a trip. I just sent her back a text saying "Whatever. Have a nice life." and deleted her from my facebook.

I think this highlights the importance of being disciplined and Nexting women as soon as they show disrespect or a lack of interest. Not doing otherwise just leads to wasted time and effort. If a woman shows a lack of interest at the beginning, it is usually unlikely that they may change their minds, especially if you keep on showing interest by asking them out.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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DJ SO STEVE

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Well we all know if a women is really interested she'll give you the time of day no doubt. If you were spinning plates and regularly going out, this wouldn't have happened. It's always best if the girl is more interested than you. The ony way to achieve that is to be a rare commodity. Being a rare commodity means you are surrounded by women who all want to be with you... Hell even men would want to be around you.

It's like playing a role playing game and you get the best weapon. Everyone wants to be on your team or wants what you have. People will follow.
 

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Firefly said:
I then invited her out FOUR times, and not only did she flake all four times, she waited until a few hours beforehand each time to do so.

I think this highlights the importance of being disciplined and Nexting women as soon as they show disrespect or a lack of interest.
FOUR times ? FOUR flakes ! Yikes,you do like pain and punishment don't you.

Read your own "advice" in the last sentence above.

2 strikes is 'game over'.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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