"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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I am an idiot or the importance of Nexting

Firefly

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So I met a girl, and we had a great time the first time. I then invited her out FOUR times, and not only did she flake all four times, she waited until a few hours beforehand each time to do so. The first time she did it, she claimed that she had work commitments and she does work in a job where she can get called on at the last moment, so I let it slide. She then did the same thing three more times. Luckily, after the first flake, I was always a little wary so I kept other plates spinning and so did not waste any of those evenings waiting around for her. The only invitation she turned up to was a massive party I threw which was very succesful. After the party, I invited her out again thinking that the social proof might be enough to change her attitude. Nope she flaked again at the last minute, sending a long text full of excuses why she couldn't make it while also asking me for advice regarding arranging a trip. I just sent her back a text saying "Whatever. Have a nice life." and deleted her from my facebook.

I think this highlights the importance of being disciplined and Nexting women as soon as they show disrespect or a lack of interest. Not doing otherwise just leads to wasted time and effort. If a woman shows a lack of interest at the beginning, it is usually unlikely that they may change their minds, especially if you keep on showing interest by asking them out.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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DJ SO STEVE

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Well we all know if a women is really interested she'll give you the time of day no doubt. If you were spinning plates and regularly going out, this wouldn't have happened. It's always best if the girl is more interested than you. The ony way to achieve that is to be a rare commodity. Being a rare commodity means you are surrounded by women who all want to be with you... Hell even men would want to be around you.

It's like playing a role playing game and you get the best weapon. Everyone wants to be on your team or wants what you have. People will follow.
 

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Firefly said:
I then invited her out FOUR times, and not only did she flake all four times, she waited until a few hours beforehand each time to do so.

I think this highlights the importance of being disciplined and Nexting women as soon as they show disrespect or a lack of interest.
FOUR times ? FOUR flakes ! Yikes,you do like pain and punishment don't you.

Read your own "advice" in the last sentence above.

2 strikes is 'game over'.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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