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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

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I always initiate and she always accepts

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Hey what's up fellas.

Lately I've been periodically seeing this girl that lives pretty far away. We hang out maybe once or twice a month. I've kept my cool, never invested too much, been seeing other girls in the meantime as well. I just noticed that every time we hang out I do the initiating, but yet she never turns me down. When we're together I make sure to hit it good, we both know that it's nothing more than fwb.

I've never been one to fix something that isn't broken, but is my luck destined to run out if I continue the initiating? Been this way for about 3-4 months now. Thanks for reading.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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If she's complying I don't see the issue. This is ideal for FWB.

Sounds like you may be more into her than vice versa. Especially when you say things like this:
JonnyD123 said:
I've never been one to fix something that isn't broken, but is my luck destined to run out if I continue the initiating?
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This always happens in FWB situations, only it's worse when it's YOU that cares too much.
 
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JoesphBrown said:
First off atta boy good job

Second off you're creating a problem when one doesn't exist
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Just like the someone said earlier, "if it ain't broken don't fix it." She's just a fwb. Keep your frame. If you want more than that, then it's something different....
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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JonnyD123 said:
is my luck destined to run out if I continue the initiating?
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No. Here's why.

Let's say you initiate one time and let's say she says "no I already have plans". You respond "no worries" and leave it at that. Eventually the little timer in her head will go off with you not having contacted her for a while and she will relieve the anxiety that this causes her by getting in contact with you. Then you play as per normal.
 
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Turuwal said:
No. Here's why.

Let's say you initiate one time and let's say she says "no I already have plans". You respond "no worries" and leave it at that. Eventually the little timer in her head will go off with you not having contacted her for a while and she will relieve the anxiety that this causes her by getting in contact with you. Then you play as per normal.
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Seems like she gets the attention she needs from you by allowing the initiation to occur. I would keep it going. It's working. Keep your verbal communications minimized and you have nothing to argue about.
 
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