Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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I always initiate and she always accepts

JonnyD123

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Hey what's up fellas.

Lately I've been periodically seeing this girl that lives pretty far away. We hang out maybe once or twice a month. I've kept my cool, never invested too much, been seeing other girls in the meantime as well. I just noticed that every time we hang out I do the initiating, but yet she never turns me down. When we're together I make sure to hit it good, we both know that it's nothing more than fwb.

I've never been one to fix something that isn't broken, but is my luck destined to run out if I continue the initiating? Been this way for about 3-4 months now. Thanks for reading.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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G_Govan

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If she's complying I don't see the issue. This is ideal for FWB.

Sounds like you may be more into her than vice versa. Especially when you say things like this:
JonnyD123 said:
I've never been one to fix something that isn't broken, but is my luck destined to run out if I continue the initiating?
This always happens in FWB situations, only it's worse when it's YOU that cares too much.
 

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JoesphBrown said:
First off atta boy good job

Second off you're creating a problem when one doesn't exist
Just like the someone said earlier, "if it ain't broken don't fix it." She's just a fwb. Keep your frame. If you want more than that, then it's something different....
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Turuwal

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JonnyD123 said:
is my luck destined to run out if I continue the initiating?
No. Here's why.

Let's say you initiate one time and let's say she says "no I already have plans". You respond "no worries" and leave it at that. Eventually the little timer in her head will go off with you not having contacted her for a while and she will relieve the anxiety that this causes her by getting in contact with you. Then you play as per normal.
 
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Turuwal said:
No. Here's why.

Let's say you initiate one time and let's say she says "no I already have plans". You respond "no worries" and leave it at that. Eventually the little timer in her head will go off with you not having contacted her for a while and she will relieve the anxiety that this causes her by getting in contact with you. Then you play as per normal.
Seems like she gets the attention she needs from you by allowing the initiation to occur. I would keep it going. It's working. Keep your verbal communications minimized and you have nothing to argue about.
 
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