"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I act the way I acted when I first meet someone. Help! (explanation inside)

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iCatch

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when i first meet someone and act alpha i'm like that all the time with that person. when i first meet someone and act beta i have a hard time acting alpha around that person afterwards

example:

when college firat started i was alpha as heck in one class and had no problem being that way the rest of the semester

in another class i was in a bad mood the first day and was really quiet and it's really hard to speak up after that and be alpha

any advice?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Dj bible. No one here can give you advice. What works for them most likely won't work for u. So read it.
 
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It's because when you first meet someone you create an image of yourself in those people's minds of the sort of person you are. Once you've done that you will feel the need to conform to their ideas of who you are and how you act every time you are around them. Breaking this cycle makes you feel uneasy and vulnerable at first but it can be done if you want to make it happen enough.
If you make the change and STICK with it, people will have no choice but to adapt to the new you and change how they view you.

It's as simple as that.
 
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That's the weird thing about this board. Or at least the younger folk on it (not that I'm old). There's all this talk about "alpha" and "beta". Just be you. You don't need to dominate a classroom or a frat to get women or to be confident.

The social order of things tends to work itself out. I don't know how anyone can live a normal life while constantly jockeying for hierarchy in different groups.

If you're quiet on your first day of class, and you missed your chance to be "alpha" then come in on the second (or 3rd, 4th, or 5th) day of class and make friends with the people surrounding you. Just be friendly and welcoming and social, and people will gravitate towards you. After that, I guess all your "beta" followers will form...if that's what you're into.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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