"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I’m seriously stuck at the crossroads and I need any help/guidance that I can get, please.

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Modern Man Advice said:
Yeah, that's one of my biggest fights. Men don't have nearly enough resources, outreachs, and support systems. So I understand you, however, do know that when it comes to legal matters where you could find yourself involved and impacted you should avoid discussing it openly. Since the judicial system will not look out for men, the way it does for women, we, as men, have to be proactive and diligent in protecting ourselves.

And absolutely, do reach out to me in private.


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Ok back to step one. Why did your wife not move in? That’s very weird. Even in cultures where young people reside with the parents until marriage once there is a marriage cohabitation is expected….
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Ok back to step one. Why did your wife not move in? That’s very weird. Even in cultures where young people reside with the parents until marriage once there is a marriage cohabitation is expected….
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This is where I believe it all stemmed/started from for the most part if I’m to pick or point on/at anything from her end…..

Deep down I do not know why, but what she would come up with were the excuses of or such as:
My work is only 2 minutes away from my Mothers house, I feel more comfortable at my Moms, you have always made it be known that this is your place (I’m sure I never did and if I did go that way about it I wasn’t an ******* about it)
 
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This is where I believe it all stemmed/started from for the most part if I’m to pick or point on/at anything from her end…..

Deep down I do not know why, but what she would come up with were the excuses of or such as:
My work is only 2 minutes away from my Mothers house, I feel more comfortable at my Moms, you have always made it be known that this is your place (I’m sure I never did and if I did go that way about it I wasn’t an ******* about it)
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Completely unreasonable. So when you tell her about chick #2? You soften the blow by saying “You understand that I am your husband and that you have simply refused to live with me as my wife, which is extraordinarily disrespectful, never mind my desire for sexual fulfillment in marriage….what am I supposed to do?”

You know she is going to whine all about it to your mother in law.

I’d tell them both (her AND her mother) and you can squarely place blame on your wife living with her mother AND HER MOTHER ALLOWING IT”

How old is your wife? 12?

Let me guess. Her mom doesn’t like you. All the more reason to stand up to them both.

I’d say ditch the lot and start over with a completely different woman. What a disaster.

Seriously. You are the man here. Kick them all to the curb unless…like UNLESS your wife agrees immediately to reside with you as husband & wife.

No excuse for this unless her mom is literally dying and has no one else to care for her. In that case you BOTH live at mom’s for free since you take care of her.

Otherwise ditch the lot.

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Completely unreasonable. So when you tell her about chick #2? You soften the blow by saying “You understand that I am your husband and that you have simply refused to live with me as my wife, which is extraordinarily disrespectful, never mind my desire for sexual fulfillment in marriage….what am I supposed to do?”

You know she is going to whine all about it to your mother in law.

I’d tell them both (her AND her mother) and you can squarely place blame on your wife living with her mother AND HER MOTHER ALLOWING IT”

How old is your wife? 12?

Let me guess. Her mom doesn’t like you. All the more reason to stand up to them both.

I’d say ditch the lot and start over with a completely different woman. What a disaster.

Seriously. You are the man here. Kick them all to the curb unless…like UNLESS your wife agrees immediately to reside with you as husband & wife.

No excuse for this unless her mom is literally dying and has no one else to care for her. In that case you BOTH live at mom’s for free since you take care of her.

Otherwise ditch the lot.

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As silly as that sounds yes I have thought of that as a positive outcome but then that would also be me trying not to face things head on and hoping for an easy way out
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As silly as that sounds yes I have thought of that as a positive outcome but then that would also be me trying not to face things head on and hoping for an easy way out
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Are you able to relocate your job try and move away from redflag girlfriend so she doesn't cause you collateral damage. Hell have no fury like a woman scorned. If she goes to town on you. The court system will not be in your favour. That is a pretty **** situation to be in mate. If your ever in my neck of the woods I'll shout you a beer at the pub
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Are you able to relocate your job try and move away from redflag girlfriend so she doesn't cause you collateral damage. Hell have no fury like a woman scorned. If she goes to town on you. The court system will not be in your favour. That is a pretty **** situation to be in mate. If your ever in my neck of the woods I'll shout you a beer at the pub
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Where abouts are you from, mate?
 
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Haha if your in my area I may be able to distract the red flag after all i am single and it will be good practise haha besides the bat**** crazy ones don't bother me.
 
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stick with your wife.

Girl #2 will crash and burn within a year, max, guaranteed.

You're thinking like a chick, following your feelings, not strategically.

Manage and take care of your relationship with your wife.

Tough economic times are coming, for a while.

Do the strategically correct thing, not the easy thing.
 
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