"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Hypothesis - All women who flirt are low quality..?

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

Read more...

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ducaro said:
See!

This is what I mean. why do you need to be intimidated and brain tickled to come up with a good argument? why couldn't you have conveyed all of this wisdom in the first post? what is with 'Go thump the bible'? what does blasphemy have to do with flirting!? These are the reasons why I had to call you a kido.

what would it have costed you to you to just respond to the topic, just like the others? (namely wyldfire and interceptor)

I am glad atleast you responded positively and even took time to answer the post for its worth. some people don't even do that!

anyway, peace. I am not here to argue.

we are all here to discuss and learn. If you don't, you burn.
By no means am i intimidated. I realize i should have posted more but i didnt really feel like it. I told you to go thump a bible because what you said is SOOO conservative...it reminds me of the girls in high school who refused to drink or be permiscuous, until they get to college and lose control, turning into skanks. Maybe you should have provided an argument that was some what reasonable, not just saying those who flirt are shallow. So...since we're here to discuss...here's your chance to tell us what the hell you're talking about.
 

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oakraiderz2 said:
By no means am i intimidated. I realize i should have posted more but i didnt really feel like it. I told you to go thump a bible because what you said is SOOO conservative...it reminds me of the girls in high school who refused to drink or be permiscuous, until they get to college and lose control, turning into skanks. Maybe you should have provided an argument that was some what reasonable, not just saying those who flirt are shallow. So...since we're here to discuss...here's your chance to tell us what the hell you're talking about.

may be i sounded a bit too extreme.. but here is what i really want to convey.

what does a flirting mean?? answer: playful behaviour intended to arouse sexual interest.

now when people flirt they are using sexual emotion to buy into the other person. this is like the easy way out.. cuz everybody likes sex.. its exciting and so use it. the truth is they never really get to know the other person intimately.. the whole getting to know eachother becomes only a surface sex oriented fling in a sense. They are unable to really connect with the other person and can only flirt.. cuz thats all they know to do.

On the other hand, even when you are trying to get close to somebody you can do so without flirting. You can talk and do so much to inittiate interest i the other person. This is a lot more genuine and emotional.

so simply put, people who flirt simply don't know how to connect with another person on a genuine solid level.

its a different thing if you talk dirty to your gf.

so flirting in my opinion is not the classy way of getting to know new people. its cheap trash and if you flirt you will only attract trash.

hope this hits the nail
 

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may be i sounded a bit too extreme.. but here is what i really want to convey.

what does a flirting mean?? answer: playful behaviour intended to arouse sexual interest.

now when people flirt they are using sexual emotion to buy into the other person. this is like the easy way out.. cuz everybody likes sex.. its exciting and so use it. the truth is they never really get to know the other person intimately.. the whole getting to know eachother becomes only a surface sex oriented fling in a sense. They are unable to really connect with the other person and can only flirt.. cuz thats all they know to do.

On the other hand, even when you are trying to get close to somebody you can do so without flirting. You can talk and do so much to inittiate interest i the other person. This is a lot more genuine and emotional.

so simply put, people who flirt simply don't know how to connect with another person on a genuine solid level.

its a different thing if you talk dirty to your gf.

so flirting in my opinion is not the classy way of getting to know new people. its cheap trash and if you flirt you will only attract trash.

hope this hits the nail
Umm...ok. It's kind of contingent upon your location. If you're at a club you're not gonna try to get to know a girl, your're gonna flirt and try to vibe sexually with her. If you're in a more laxed enviornment, youre not gonna flirt as you would in a club. I dont know where you get the idea that people who flirt dont know how to connect with each other, seems like quite the fallacy to me unless you pull out some statistics. Talking dirty and flirting are to different things, my son. I dont know what youre basing all of this stuff on, you must have had a bad experience or something like that. Youre taking the whole flirting thing WAY too seriously. People go on dates for a reason. Flirtation yields attraction. Dates yield connections.
 
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