"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Hypothesis - All women who flirt are low quality..?
- Thread starter ducaro
- Start date
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
oakraiderz2
Master Don Juan
By no means am i intimidated. I realize i should have posted more but i didnt really feel like it. I told you to go thump a bible because what you said is SOOO conservative...it reminds me of the girls in high school who refused to drink or be permiscuous, until they get to college and lose control, turning into skanks. Maybe you should have provided an argument that was some what reasonable, not just saying those who flirt are shallow. So...since we're here to discuss...here's your chance to tell us what the hell you're talking about.ducaro said:See!
This is what I mean. why do you need to be intimidated and brain tickled to come up with a good argument? why couldn't you have conveyed all of this wisdom in the first post? what is with 'Go thump the bible'? what does blasphemy have to do with flirting!? These are the reasons why I had to call you a kido.
what would it have costed you to you to just respond to the topic, just like the others? (namely wyldfire and interceptor)
I am glad atleast you responded positively and even took time to answer the post for its worth. some people don't even do that!
anyway, peace. I am not here to argue.
we are all here to discuss and learn. If you don't, you burn.
oakraiderz2 said:By no means am i intimidated. I realize i should have posted more but i didnt really feel like it. I told you to go thump a bible because what you said is SOOO conservative...it reminds me of the girls in high school who refused to drink or be permiscuous, until they get to college and lose control, turning into skanks. Maybe you should have provided an argument that was some what reasonable, not just saying those who flirt are shallow. So...since we're here to discuss...here's your chance to tell us what the hell you're talking about.
may be i sounded a bit too extreme.. but here is what i really want to convey.
what does a flirting mean?? answer: playful behaviour intended to arouse sexual interest.
now when people flirt they are using sexual emotion to buy into the other person. this is like the easy way out.. cuz everybody likes sex.. its exciting and so use it. the truth is they never really get to know the other person intimately.. the whole getting to know eachother becomes only a surface sex oriented fling in a sense. They are unable to really connect with the other person and can only flirt.. cuz thats all they know to do.
On the other hand, even when you are trying to get close to somebody you can do so without flirting. You can talk and do so much to inittiate interest i the other person. This is a lot more genuine and emotional.
so simply put, people who flirt simply don't know how to connect with another person on a genuine solid level.
its a different thing if you talk dirty to your gf.
so flirting in my opinion is not the classy way of getting to know new people. its cheap trash and if you flirt you will only attract trash.
hope this hits the nail
oakraiderz2
Master Don Juan
Umm...ok. It's kind of contingent upon your location. If you're at a club you're not gonna try to get to know a girl, your're gonna flirt and try to vibe sexually with her. If you're in a more laxed enviornment, youre not gonna flirt as you would in a club. I dont know where you get the idea that people who flirt dont know how to connect with each other, seems like quite the fallacy to me unless you pull out some statistics. Talking dirty and flirting are to different things, my son. I dont know what youre basing all of this stuff on, you must have had a bad experience or something like that. Youre taking the whole flirting thing WAY too seriously. People go on dates for a reason. Flirtation yields attraction. Dates yield connections.ducaro said:may be i sounded a bit too extreme.. but here is what i really want to convey.
what does a flirting mean?? answer: playful behaviour intended to arouse sexual interest.
now when people flirt they are using sexual emotion to buy into the other person. this is like the easy way out.. cuz everybody likes sex.. its exciting and so use it. the truth is they never really get to know the other person intimately.. the whole getting to know eachother becomes only a surface sex oriented fling in a sense. They are unable to really connect with the other person and can only flirt.. cuz thats all they know to do.
On the other hand, even when you are trying to get close to somebody you can do so without flirting. You can talk and do so much to inittiate interest i the other person. This is a lot more genuine and emotional.
so simply put, people who flirt simply don't know how to connect with another person on a genuine solid level.
its a different thing if you talk dirty to your gf.
so flirting in my opinion is not the classy way of getting to know new people. its cheap trash and if you flirt you will only attract trash.
hope this hits the nail