"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Hypergamy stuffs…

Cheeky_James

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thinking about this hypergamy stuff and in context to using dating apps.

So if women want to date up,
Then it would seem logical that theyd expect the man they like to be “looking down” right?
For him to have a superior attitude.
Is that a fair rationalisation?

And so if they match me on the app.
Would it be best for me to be lukewarm and slightly superior as a starting basis in the chat ?

like a attitude of “you’re not quite good enough for me , but I’ll give you a chance” kinda deal…
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Clockwerk50

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I wish I could help, but I’m not on the apps.

That said, it doesn’t matter what you do as long as the woman wants to play ball with you. It’s up to you whether you drop it or not.
 

zekko

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thinking about this hypergamy stuff and in context to using dating apps.

So if women want to date up,
Then it would seem logical that theyd expect the man they like to be “looking down” right?
For him to have a superior attitude.
Is that a fair rationalisation?
I have no OLD experience, but for women in general, yes I think what you're saying is true.
This is why being overeager or falling in love too quickly can KILL attraction with women.
Don't be snobbish though.

I remember one woman telling me that she hated when guys got "googly eyes" over her. Honestly, I didn't understand it then, but it makes perfect sense now.
 
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