"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Hypergamy stuffs…

Cheeky_James

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thinking about this hypergamy stuff and in context to using dating apps.

So if women want to date up,
Then it would seem logical that theyd expect the man they like to be “looking down” right?
For him to have a superior attitude.
Is that a fair rationalisation?

And so if they match me on the app.
Would it be best for me to be lukewarm and slightly superior as a starting basis in the chat ?

like a attitude of “you’re not quite good enough for me , but I’ll give you a chance” kinda deal…
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I wish I could help, but I’m not on the apps.

That said, it doesn’t matter what you do as long as the woman wants to play ball with you. It’s up to you whether you drop it or not.
 

zekko

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thinking about this hypergamy stuff and in context to using dating apps.

So if women want to date up,
Then it would seem logical that theyd expect the man they like to be “looking down” right?
For him to have a superior attitude.
Is that a fair rationalisation?
I have no OLD experience, but for women in general, yes I think what you're saying is true.
This is why being overeager or falling in love too quickly can KILL attraction with women.
Don't be snobbish though.

I remember one woman telling me that she hated when guys got "googly eyes" over her. Honestly, I didn't understand it then, but it makes perfect sense now.
 
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