MatureDJ
Master Don Juan
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Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Evidently that guy had a sex drive like a male Black Widow spider - bodily injury as the reward for sex. :crazy:Proselytiser said:My dad was a cop in England. They got a call every now and again from a woman (a bodybuilder) who said she had been beaten by her boyfriend. It was her that had been beating the boyfriend, but the police could not prove either one. Eventually the woman got a restraining order on her boyfriend, but then every time she got drunk, she called him saying she was sorry and still loved him and to come over, where she'd promptly beat him again, the cops would be called, the guy accused of beating the woman and they would tell the guy 'just don't go there, ever, under any circumstance'.
Nevertheless he wen't back about 20 times to her house and was beaten senseless each and every time