"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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hey guys how do you do this. i always feel akward initiating. how do you do this in school situations???
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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War Against Betaism

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I always give girls a big hug. I always used to give girls this half assed hug where I only put one arm around them but ever since I started giving them a complete hug with both my arms, I've noticed that I was able to get on an emotional level with them quicker. Also, don't be afraid that her boobs are going to be pressing against you, a lot of guys seem insecure about this. Don't worry, they don't mind as long as you don't do anything farther than just that.
 
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lol, same here WAB.

Use to feel very awkward. But I found when I did a proper hug, girls become attracted a lot easier.
 
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Yea I agree. I use to think hugs were akward but it was becuase I would do them half assed with one arm.

Now I usually squease them a little too tight. Once I started doing them right I enjoyed them and once I started enjoying them I did them right.

Also I give them to girls that I am not actively persuing. Like after a night of hanging out with some friends, I may give the girls a hug if it seems appropriate when everyone is saying their goodbyes. Doing this just makes you all the more confortable and leaves a good impression.
 
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yeh bro, i also feel wierd about the whole hugging thing

how do u know when its appropriate to give her a hug?
how do u tell her u want to give her a hug, what do u say exactly?
is it the guy who initiates or the girl?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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hugging should not be awkward. As wolf said, it usually means nothing. For the most part, you will never be rejected going for a hug. Don't be eager or nervous. AFC's love hugs, its all they can get.


If a girl likes you, she probably wont initiate it. She'll also squeeze you a little harder and hold on for as long as you do. I've even had a girl pretend to "lose her balance" and push me on a couch. You'll know.

Be playful with it every now and then, squeeze hard, swing her around, lift her up.
 
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