"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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hey guys how do you do this. i always feel akward initiating. how do you do this in school situations???
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I always give girls a big hug. I always used to give girls this half assed hug where I only put one arm around them but ever since I started giving them a complete hug with both my arms, I've noticed that I was able to get on an emotional level with them quicker. Also, don't be afraid that her boobs are going to be pressing against you, a lot of guys seem insecure about this. Don't worry, they don't mind as long as you don't do anything farther than just that.
 
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lol, same here WAB.

Use to feel very awkward. But I found when I did a proper hug, girls become attracted a lot easier.
 
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Yea I agree. I use to think hugs were akward but it was becuase I would do them half assed with one arm.

Now I usually squease them a little too tight. Once I started doing them right I enjoyed them and once I started enjoying them I did them right.

Also I give them to girls that I am not actively persuing. Like after a night of hanging out with some friends, I may give the girls a hug if it seems appropriate when everyone is saying their goodbyes. Doing this just makes you all the more confortable and leaves a good impression.
 
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yeh bro, i also feel wierd about the whole hugging thing

how do u know when its appropriate to give her a hug?
how do u tell her u want to give her a hug, what do u say exactly?
is it the guy who initiates or the girl?
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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hugging should not be awkward. As wolf said, it usually means nothing. For the most part, you will never be rejected going for a hug. Don't be eager or nervous. AFC's love hugs, its all they can get.


If a girl likes you, she probably wont initiate it. She'll also squeeze you a little harder and hold on for as long as you do. I've even had a girl pretend to "lose her balance" and push me on a couch. You'll know.

Be playful with it every now and then, squeeze hard, swing her around, lift her up.
 
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