suaveplayer
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hey guys how do you do this. i always feel akward initiating. how do you do this in school situations???
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
War Against Betaism
Master Don Juan
I always give girls a big hug. I always used to give girls this half assed hug where I only put one arm around them but ever since I started giving them a complete hug with both my arms, I've noticed that I was able to get on an emotional level with them quicker. Also, don't be afraid that her boobs are going to be pressing against you, a lot of guys seem insecure about this. Don't worry, they don't mind as long as you don't do anything farther than just that.
Bloke
Senior Don Juan
lol, same here WAB.
Use to feel very awkward. But I found when I did a proper hug, girls become attracted a lot easier.
Use to feel very awkward. But I found when I did a proper hug, girls become attracted a lot easier.
Five To One
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Yea I agree. I use to think hugs were akward but it was becuase I would do them half assed with one arm.
Now I usually squease them a little too tight. Once I started doing them right I enjoyed them and once I started enjoying them I did them right.
Also I give them to girls that I am not actively persuing. Like after a night of hanging out with some friends, I may give the girls a hug if it seems appropriate when everyone is saying their goodbyes. Doing this just makes you all the more confortable and leaves a good impression.
Now I usually squease them a little too tight. Once I started doing them right I enjoyed them and once I started enjoying them I did them right.
Also I give them to girls that I am not actively persuing. Like after a night of hanging out with some friends, I may give the girls a hug if it seems appropriate when everyone is saying their goodbyes. Doing this just makes you all the more confortable and leaves a good impression.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
WalkingStick
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hugging should not be awkward. As wolf said, it usually means nothing. For the most part, you will never be rejected going for a hug. Don't be eager or nervous. AFC's love hugs, its all they can get.
If a girl likes you, she probably wont initiate it. She'll also squeeze you a little harder and hold on for as long as you do. I've even had a girl pretend to "lose her balance" and push me on a couch. You'll know.
Be playful with it every now and then, squeeze hard, swing her around, lift her up.
If a girl likes you, she probably wont initiate it. She'll also squeeze you a little harder and hold on for as long as you do. I've even had a girl pretend to "lose her balance" and push me on a couch. You'll know.
Be playful with it every now and then, squeeze hard, swing her around, lift her up.