"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Met this girl. We went out and she brought her friend...is it bad if i give her a goodbye hug?. she was with her friend. I didnt give a good bye hug to her friend, just her. Was a too aggressive?? This is killing me..i dont know if what i did was right. comments are welcome.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Was she into the hug? Did she look apprehensive? Did she try to squirm away?
 

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Man, this is nothing to agonise about. It's your attitude when you do something that counts -- were you being needy?

In any case go stare at the stars and realise what a tiny little thing it is.
 
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Don't think on this one too much. It's not bad that you gave a goodbye hug. In fact, it doesn't matter if you hugged her friend or not either.

By hugging you're just showing that you don't take yourself so serious and you're fun. Next time you hug her have fun with it, for instance, sometimes I'll go in for the hug but I won't hug her, I'll just stick my arms out to my side and laugh while she just hugs my body and waits. Then she gets the point and laughs with me, ridiculing me. Then point at her friend and say, "Awwww you must want a hug too huh? Come here!"

Point is, have fun with everything you do, and don't take this so serious. If you normally hug girls then hug! If you normally shake hands then do do so.
 

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theunflushables said:
Was she into the hug? Did she look apprehensive? Did she try to squirm away?
no i think i took her by surprised.
i have no idea i couldnt see her face when i hug her
no she didnt.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

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escaleraroyal said:
no i think i took her by surprised.
i have no idea i couldnt see her face when i hug her
no she didnt.
Then no harm done. Don't fret about it.
 

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oh well. she responded it. she was busy with exams...again i m abck on track.
gotta ask her out again now.
 
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