"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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How's this curveball?

Broham

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I've been getting weird responses from girls lately. It must be the weather. So I'm walking to the parking lot from work and I see this woman, late 20s/early 30s walking in front me. I catch up and the convo goes as follows:
Me: excuse me, are you single by any chance
Her: single, like not married?
Me: yes.
Her: well, yeah, but I do have a b/f
Me: Oh, where do you work exactly.
Her: I work at blah blah blah in building 2
Me: Ahh, I'm at blah in building 6
Me: would you like to do lunch sometime
Her: well me and my b/f are kind of monogamous
Me(with odd look): ohhh, you do realize ppl aren't meant to be that way
Her: (smiling) Yeah
Her: I'm Lynne by the way (shakes my hand)
Me: Broham, nice to meet you
Me: well i gotta run, why don't I give you a call
Her: why don't you stop by the office and i'll give you my business card
Me: Ok, will do
Bye

Now I've only been out of college a year. Most girls I meet/hook up with are college age so I've never been thrown this before. Is this typical when meeting women in the workforce??
 

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DJDamage

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Maybe its because you are catching those girls in the wrong time and the wrong place. I mean after work everyone wants to hurry back home and meeting a strange guy in the parking lot is not really something that spell's romance but it does spell stalker.

Try a different setting like a Bar or a book store where girls are relaxing and are more likely to engage with you in a conversation.

Also you did a cold approach out of the blue "excuse me are you single?" that is not going to yield a great number of success. Try to be more subtle, relax, funny ****y etc.. you were gunning for it like you were ordering fast food.
 

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Real good save on that curveball Bro !
Originally posted by Broham
... weird responses from girls lately...

Her: well me and my b/f are kind of monogamous
Me(with odd look): ohhh, you do realize ppl aren't meant to be that way
Her: (smiling) Yeah
Her: I'm Lynne by the way (shakes my hand)
Me: Broham, nice to meet you
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You did very well there !

You made it onto her Lovers list and as most of us know and many have yet to learn - that list gets shuffeld a lot !
Her b/f just got himself some competition :D

Shes has probably placed her princess dream of marring Mr. right on standby for now, while she does the carrier thing, and the ol'bio-clock hasn't started tickking too loud yet. She wants best quality entertainment.

You can ALWAYS bet on them looking to "upgrade"
and they are all "KIND OF" monogamous

Originally posted by DJDamage
...you were gunning for it like you were ordering fast food.
Which is good as she was McDonna (lds) ! She basically said "May I take your order please".

-JJ
 

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desperate..........................................
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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