"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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How's this curveball?

Broham

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I've been getting weird responses from girls lately. It must be the weather. So I'm walking to the parking lot from work and I see this woman, late 20s/early 30s walking in front me. I catch up and the convo goes as follows:
Me: excuse me, are you single by any chance
Her: single, like not married?
Me: yes.
Her: well, yeah, but I do have a b/f
Me: Oh, where do you work exactly.
Her: I work at blah blah blah in building 2
Me: Ahh, I'm at blah in building 6
Me: would you like to do lunch sometime
Her: well me and my b/f are kind of monogamous
Me(with odd look): ohhh, you do realize ppl aren't meant to be that way
Her: (smiling) Yeah
Her: I'm Lynne by the way (shakes my hand)
Me: Broham, nice to meet you
Me: well i gotta run, why don't I give you a call
Her: why don't you stop by the office and i'll give you my business card
Me: Ok, will do
Bye

Now I've only been out of college a year. Most girls I meet/hook up with are college age so I've never been thrown this before. Is this typical when meeting women in the workforce??
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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DJDamage

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Maybe its because you are catching those girls in the wrong time and the wrong place. I mean after work everyone wants to hurry back home and meeting a strange guy in the parking lot is not really something that spell's romance but it does spell stalker.

Try a different setting like a Bar or a book store where girls are relaxing and are more likely to engage with you in a conversation.

Also you did a cold approach out of the blue "excuse me are you single?" that is not going to yield a great number of success. Try to be more subtle, relax, funny ****y etc.. you were gunning for it like you were ordering fast food.
 

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Real good save on that curveball Bro !
Originally posted by Broham
... weird responses from girls lately...

Her: well me and my b/f are kind of monogamous
Me(with odd look): ohhh, you do realize ppl aren't meant to be that way
Her: (smiling) Yeah
Her: I'm Lynne by the way (shakes my hand)
Me: Broham, nice to meet you
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You did very well there !

You made it onto her Lovers list and as most of us know and many have yet to learn - that list gets shuffeld a lot !
Her b/f just got himself some competition :D

Shes has probably placed her princess dream of marring Mr. right on standby for now, while she does the carrier thing, and the ol'bio-clock hasn't started tickking too loud yet. She wants best quality entertainment.

You can ALWAYS bet on them looking to "upgrade"
and they are all "KIND OF" monogamous

Originally posted by DJDamage
...you were gunning for it like you were ordering fast food.
Which is good as she was McDonna (lds) ! She basically said "May I take your order please".

-JJ
 

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desperate..........................................
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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