"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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How would you respond if a girl said this?

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Yeah, well, yesterday after the game, I was infront of my locker changing shirts, so obviously at one point, I had to take off my shirt. So I'm standing infront of my locker with my shirt off, changing shirts and all of a sudden this senior chick who's also in band comes by and says "Wow, there's a naked man standing in the middle of the hallway.". I didn't know how to take this, perhaps she was teasing me, maybe she was just saying it, to say it, I was the only guy in the hallway at the time and she was looking towards me when she said, so I know it was directed at me.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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milkman

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Originally posted by Viper
Yeah, well, yesterday after the game, I was infront of my locker changing shirts, so obviously at one point, I had to take off my shirt. So I'm standing infront of my locker with my shirt off, changing shirts and all of a sudden this senior chick who's also in band comes by and says "Wow, there's a naked man standing in the middle of the hallway.". I didn't know how to take this, perhaps she was teasing me, maybe she was just saying it, to say it, I was the only guy in the hallway at the time and she was looking towards me when she said, so I know it was directed at me.
I wouldn´t say anything, who cares what someone else is saying. But in case you think she could be interesting for you, then approach her. But then you should also approach her if she wouldn´t say anything.

Don´t wait for approach invitations from girls. If you like her, then approach her and you can say whatever you want.
 

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"I perform at bachelorette parties too..." ;)
 

TxCowboy

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Originally posted by Viper
Yeah, well, yesterday after the game, I was infront of my locker changing shirts, so obviously at one point, I had to take off my shirt. So I'm standing infront of my locker with my shirt off, changing shirts and all of a sudden this senior chick who's also in band comes by and says "Wow, there's a naked man standing in the middle of the hallway.". I didn't know how to take this, perhaps she was teasing me, maybe she was just saying it, to say it, I was the only guy in the hallway at the time and she was looking towards me when she said, so I know it was directed at me.
depends on her tone of voice ... also , if it were me , I woulda told the h0 "stop looking, I'm not a piece of steak"
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Re: Re: How would you respond if a girl said this?

Originally posted by TxCowboy
depends on her tone of voice ... also , if it were me , I woulda told the h0 "stop looking, I'm not a piece of steak"
She was smiling and the tone of her voice, don't know how to describe it, certainly wasn't a negative tone though.
 

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Originally posted by happyfrog
Viper, what did you say to her?
Well, basically - nothing, I had no idea what to say, it's not everyday a girl says something like that to you.
 

[DoN.2.Da.JUaN]

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care to join me :p
 

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Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
"I perform at bachelorette parties too..." ;)
hahaha francisco always cracks me up :cheer:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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mattathensga

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That WAS pretty funny, fransico....
I liked [DoN.2.Da.JUaN]'s response too...
 

mattathensga

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Sh*t, I just thought of something else, Viper, USE that as a way to approach her, get a pic of yourself, in the same mode, shirt off, and offer it to her, say, you seemed to like it the first time, figured since you didn't have a camera I'd take this for you, or something like that... make a joke out of it, it'll break the 'ice' on your approach....
 

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"You didn't know? the hallway is my strip club from 12 pm-3pm, invitations ONLY."
 
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