Shivastorm_88
Senior Don Juan
- Joined
- Jul 10, 2007
- Messages
- 408
- Reaction score
- 16
I will sum it up very briefly: I was at a friend's house (HB friend) with a bunch of people, as well as MALE friend and HB7. MALE friend was obviously hitting on HB7 (clear as the sky) and I was unleashing C&F attitude on her (not because I was hitting on her, just because it's my regular mindset). She was enjoying it, laughing a bunch and all that, but he was finding it disrespectful and taking her defense, acting white knight-ish. I obviously didn't do anything about it, but at some point he took one of my sandals and threw it in the pool to, I guess, prove a point that I was not treating her properly. I know this is a very trivial event, but I want to know if my reaction was good, or over-reacted.
I simply (and calmly) told him to go get it from the pool, and made him understand (in front of all our friends, humiliating for him) that his behavior was uncalled for and that he didn't need to act like a prick to try to impress HB7. He then called me on my attitude towards her, to which I replied that it was not his job to defend her and if she saw a problem, she would tell me herself, and that again, acting like a prick because of this situation was unwarranted for. In the end, he retrieved it for me, and this was put behind us.
The reason I ask this is I've always have a tendency to let others walk over me, including my friends. I'm changing that, but I need to calibrate at a proper level. I need to find the right level at which I should let things slide VS at the level at which I should take a stand and show that X behavior is unacceptable.
I simply (and calmly) told him to go get it from the pool, and made him understand (in front of all our friends, humiliating for him) that his behavior was uncalled for and that he didn't need to act like a prick to try to impress HB7. He then called me on my attitude towards her, to which I replied that it was not his job to defend her and if she saw a problem, she would tell me herself, and that again, acting like a prick because of this situation was unwarranted for. In the end, he retrieved it for me, and this was put behind us.
The reason I ask this is I've always have a tendency to let others walk over me, including my friends. I'm changing that, but I need to calibrate at a proper level. I need to find the right level at which I should let things slide VS at the level at which I should take a stand and show that X behavior is unacceptable.