You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
She got the attention she was looking for.
I find when chicks like this are obvious attention *****es , don't give them what they are looking for. Don't feed the beast.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Here's the thing: as I told you, I know exactly what she was doing, but damn, are these women weird LOL to have a 30 year old woman tell you she's gushing wet and tell you "I will suck you dry, you be convinced of that" to then just disappear...you know what I am talkin' about. But whatever, not that I am fixating over her, I will just next her coldly and it's all OK.
Yes girls normally act like this in their 20s and mature in their 30s. However in her case, the pics on social media and such behaviour tells me she is using her 30s as over time for her 20s. She obvious still has some sexual market value and knows it and is displaying it with a huge ego.
Unless she asks to come to my place or asks me to go to hers, I ain't even responding to any future messages she might send.
Why not? You can't get butt hurt about this stuff. You got other plates right?
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
sounds like a complete waste of time. wasting time on a lost cause is for when you have no other options at the moment
