"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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How would you handle this (**** test maybe)

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I was texting a girl I had gone on a date with recently. I asked her what mischief she was up to that day. Then she replied she slept most of the day.

From there a playful convo starts, I tell her I'm coming for some sleep lessons. She plays along and there's a bit of banter.

Then there's a small brain joke that leads to this.

'Omo daada' means good boy/child. Basically, its what a parent or someone superior would say

How did i handle this? What would you have done instead? 20201004_161328.jpg
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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You must cater to her imagination, if she wants you to be something you dont want to be, remain neutral, a bit of resistance is fine, but do not let her imagination run dry, if she wants you to be a lil' sub, negotiate with her.
 

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You must cater to her imagination, if she wants you to be something you dont want to be, remain neutral, a bit of resistance is fine, but do not let her imagination run dry, if she wants you to be a lil' sub, negotiate with her.
Could you show an example
 

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She said Baby followed by a thumbs up.
Don’t overthink it. I see it as positive.
Oh, maybe I was overthinking.
But I didn't overreact, right? Cos I didn't reply her msg after that
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Oh, maybe I was overthinking.
But I didn't overreact, right? Cos I didn't reply her msg after that
Slight overreaction about her I’m the boss line. She probably just testing boundaries and you should have followed it with a joke…
Your fired followed by no reply sounds like
a mini-dump
 

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Slight overreaction about her I’m the boss line. She probably just testing boundaries and you should have followed it with a joke…
Your fired followed by no reply sounds like
a mini-dump
Hmm.
It doesn't seem too bad, I guess I will hit her up later
 

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I wouldn't worry too much. She seems playful.

Next time just play along with it (or ignore/reframe as a poster above said). There's a lot you can do with "good boy."

One thing about being the boss is you don't always have to throw your weight around. Always think of her as a little girl and you're like her daddy, amused at the silly little things she says and patting her on the head.
I get it now. Too bad I ended the interaction by my action. I guess I'll hit her up later.

I'm wondering what could be done with good boy, lol.

I'm not a bossy person actually. But I get the point now, just to keep it all playful
 

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Hmm.
It doesn't seem too bad, I guess I will hit her up later
Good plan. Keep it playful like Sam said and throw in a situational or sexual joke or two and you’ll be good.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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