"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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How would you handle this (**** test maybe)

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I was texting a girl I had gone on a date with recently. I asked her what mischief she was up to that day. Then she replied she slept most of the day.

From there a playful convo starts, I tell her I'm coming for some sleep lessons. She plays along and there's a bit of banter.

Then there's a small brain joke that leads to this.

'Omo daada' means good boy/child. Basically, its what a parent or someone superior would say

How did i handle this? What would you have done instead? 20201004_161328.jpg
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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You must cater to her imagination, if she wants you to be something you dont want to be, remain neutral, a bit of resistance is fine, but do not let her imagination run dry, if she wants you to be a lil' sub, negotiate with her.
 

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You must cater to her imagination, if she wants you to be something you dont want to be, remain neutral, a bit of resistance is fine, but do not let her imagination run dry, if she wants you to be a lil' sub, negotiate with her.
Could you show an example
 

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She said Baby followed by a thumbs up.
Don’t overthink it. I see it as positive.
Oh, maybe I was overthinking.
But I didn't overreact, right? Cos I didn't reply her msg after that
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Oh, maybe I was overthinking.
But I didn't overreact, right? Cos I didn't reply her msg after that
Slight overreaction about her I’m the boss line. She probably just testing boundaries and you should have followed it with a joke…
Your fired followed by no reply sounds like
a mini-dump
 

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Slight overreaction about her I’m the boss line. She probably just testing boundaries and you should have followed it with a joke…
Your fired followed by no reply sounds like
a mini-dump
Hmm.
It doesn't seem too bad, I guess I will hit her up later
 

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I wouldn't worry too much. She seems playful.

Next time just play along with it (or ignore/reframe as a poster above said). There's a lot you can do with "good boy."

One thing about being the boss is you don't always have to throw your weight around. Always think of her as a little girl and you're like her daddy, amused at the silly little things she says and patting her on the head.
I get it now. Too bad I ended the interaction by my action. I guess I'll hit her up later.

I'm wondering what could be done with good boy, lol.

I'm not a bossy person actually. But I get the point now, just to keep it all playful
 

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Hmm.
It doesn't seem too bad, I guess I will hit her up later
Good plan. Keep it playful like Sam said and throw in a situational or sexual joke or two and you’ll be good.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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