"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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How would you go about asking out a girl from your sports club?

Eternal_water

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There is a girl at the badminton group I play at on Wednesdays that I would be very interested in dating, we get on well and have a laugh on court. (I don't know if she is single or not though)

Would you risk asking out someone that you see every week and getting rejected and things then becoming awkward?

And if you did how would you go about it?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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JoeMarron

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Rejection is better than regret. Walk up to her, say "hey lets hang out at (whaterver place) at (whatever time)," on the date escalate when you feel its appropriate, profit.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

Read more...

Aristippus

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You can simply have a good time at the sports club and at some point during your conversation, you can bring the topic up of things in general that you both enjoy doing. At that point, you can then say "Hey, I want to try out that new place we were talking about (or I was planning on going to such and such a place). You should come with me. Here's my number.". Then you give her your number. At this point, you simply wait and see if she volunteers her number without you asking. If she volunteers her number that's a good sign. If she doesn't but calls you, that's a good sign. When I say it's a good sign, I'm not saying that automatically means she's interested in anything other than friendship. She might be or she might not.

At the very least, you'll be enjoying each other's company as friends and if she starts flirting a lot, getting very touchy-feely, asking you if you have a girlfriend or doing things like accidentally bumping her breasts or a$$ into you repeatedly when you're both out or if she does something like rub your chest or lay her hand or hands on your chest for a few seconds, then you can hold her hand. If she likes holding hands with you, you can kiss her.

The idea is, you move forward non-verbally or allow her to show interest or lack of, non-verbally, without ever having asked her on a "date". This is actually a way to test her and it's also a way to notice her level of interest without ever verbalizing romantic interest. So chances of a verbal rejection are slim to none. She either fails to get together with you, or when you're together, she shows only friendship type behaviors. On the other hand, if she likes you as more than a friend, she will start with friendly/ friendship type behaviors but then she will do other things like repeatedly invading your space and she might steer the conversation to a sexual topic. At that point, you can do something like squeeze her knee gently and see how she reacts. If she likes that, you can hold her hand or put your arm around her.

If you're holding hands for a while, it's very likely she will welcome a kiss. So you just got the answer of whether she is interested or not. You also get to see whether or not you're really interested in her once you spend time with her outside of the sports club setting. This kind of approach not only minimizes rejection but it also works very well if done properly.
 
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